What is our true personality?

I was thinking about the behavior that we usually have as individuals, and it is interesting, because I could notice that, to a greater or lesser extent, the behavior of people varies according to the circumstances, which makes it diffuse to define who we really are, because all our behavior, including the way we think, is highly conditioned by the circumstances.

Generally we behave in a certain way when we walk down the street surrounded by many people, people we don't know, and another very different when we are facing a group of people that we know and with whom we frequently deal with, and in turn, the behavior that we have with our relatives or people of greater confidence is usually different from any of the previous two.

This can serve different reasons, whereas before a group of unknown people we don't know how they would react to our actions, before known people we can guess what those reactions would be, and in part, the assumption we make about the reactions of other people will condition our actions towards them or in the presence of them.

In fact, this could be contrasted in the fact that it can be annoying for some people to have to deal with a situation in which people who usually deal with it separately are present, and in very different environments and circumstances, like the friends you have at work and those with whom you practice some sport on the weekend, in case they are not the same of course. This does not mean that we are hypocrites, but that our behavior at work can and should be different from what we have in the gym or in the park. In some circumstances we are more reserved and in others we are more open and spontaneous.

Finally, we have different behavior when we are completely alone, but we must not fall into the illusion of thinking that this is our true facet, just as when other people are present, the behavior we have when we are completely alone is just as conditioned, in this case, for loneliness.

Could we be competitive or aggressive people if we are alone? I suppose there is a set of emotions and activities that only manifest themselves in the presence of other people, we must also bear in mind that we can only be alone in a certain place, never in all, so the situations in which we find ourselves alone, they always appear in closed and usually small spaces, like our homes, so we would hardly have a sample of what our behavior would be like if we were alone in front of large and open spaces. I suppose that in a solitude in these dimensions, most could feel fear or anything else and begin to behave unsuspectedly. So we could not say that our behavior in solitude is the true facet of us, but it is one more among all the others.

How to know what is our true facet? I can only assume that our true personality is the one with which we feel most comfortable, there are certain things we like to do, situations in which we like to be, and people with whom we like to relate, and inevitably we have a desire to try change our environment to create an environment in which we want to act, or simply place ourselves in situations that we consider appropriate to be who we really are.

Thus, under this model of society, many people, not all, are uncomfortable, this is because the current circumstances are not conducive to them to really develop their personality, that is, to be free. In fact, a usual manifestation of this discomfort is the desire of many to accumulate money, but not out of greed, but because they believe that with a certain amount of money and income they will reach enough stability and financial security to be free to act, to develop, and to be themselves, to create their own circumstances, or failing that, to reduce the things that condition them negatively.

However, it is important to clarify that having money is the illusion, the way in which you think you can get what you are looking for, but that finally is a means with an uncertain end, nothing indicates that having money will allow you to develop your true personality, and this is because money is only an externalization, the only thing that will lead us to achieve a full way of life is to become aware of ourselves, there is a big difference between our personality being a consequence of having money and having money be the consequence of our personality. Many times getting money can mean betraying ourselves in exchange for the promise of being, in the future, who we really are, something that will probably never happen, because a path that leads us to betray ourselves again and again can't lead to a end where we are honest.

Thus, if through an exercise of self-consciousness we determine who we are, or which facet of us we would like to expose more, we will want to change the circumstances to create the conditions where we can express ourselves, however, we should not fall into the illusion of thinking that something external to us it will give us the freedom to express us, but on the contrary, to express ourselves freely is what will create, in the first place, the circumstances where we can do it with naturalness, it is then, an exercise of honesty with ourselves and with the world in that we interact what can give us the sought freedom.

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