I am not a father yet, nor do I know what it is to be one. I can't give out any advice on how to raise children, that would probably be something I can do once having the proper experience behind my back. But there is one thing I can share that goes beyond any advice a parent can give, mainly because experience is a teacher. And that thing is my Viewing point as a Child, despite me being 23. I have seen many mistakes within myself regarding things that my parents have tried to tell me and teach me, coming to an understanding, but that understanding came only when the world around me thought me the exact same thing, only then could I relate and fully understand and see.

Growing Up

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I am not ashamed to say that my family was poor, that including me. Thus I never had the opportunity to experience life the same way that others around me did.

As I grew up I started hating my parents for the lack of finances they were able to provide, yet something in me did see that they were doing all that they could.

I guess the rational part of me had the better back then.

They always tried to tell me what to do and what was bad for me and I always acted negatively towards what they had to say.

It was probably because I was blinded by my negativity.

In the future I realized that they did this so I wouldn't be in their condition.

I think this is something typical for every parent, telling their children what to do or not, just because they have gone through the troubles, trying to give their children the best they can, even if that is life advice.

Conclusions

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What I wanted in life didn't come from anything that my parents told me. Everything I wanted to achieve was seen from somewhere else. I was so caught up in the things I wanted to achieve in life and seeing that my parents weren't able to provide them only led me to a state of non-acceptance, which led me to a huge blindside because I didn't even bother to see that my Family was there for me, in its worse and in its best, they always tried to do anything possible to make me happy.

It took me years to see that of course and after I did life changed, it not only made things better for me and my family to feel happier, but it opened up opportunities that I had no clue were there.

My advice to any parent would be that the more you try to teach your children anything the likelier you are to fail. It is like trying to listen to the same song on repeat, hoping it will sound newer on the second and third time. You would eventually get pissed and press the mute button.
Rather than teaching your children anything, just try to provide for them anything you think would help them be more happy and loving.
Rather than buying them an xBox, take them out to events, share time with them and enjoy life. The more you do this, the more you bond and sooner or later things get better.

I realized this because my father and mother were always busy working or doing something. I never had the opportunity to experience life with them due to the never-ending financial struggles. And that separated me from them and made me hate them because I though they had no time for me and all other things.

But at the end, many years passed and I saw that they just tried to provide the best they could for me. My father worked two jobs just to provide for me and my mom, trying to make me happy.
This ended up breaking me and shaping me into something else, a more loving person.

So at the end, all that you ever need to have a happy child is to be honest, even if you disappoint him/her, she/he won't hate you, she/he would be disappointed but that will pass. If you lie or try to be something you aren't, that would just create a negative image, leading your child to think all sorts of stuff derived from the image itself, where you just wanted to do good and not dissapoint but wasn't able to.

And even so, in the good times and in the darkest of days, life was always there for me, it is the grand teacher and showed me how to grow from my wrongs and how to be a better and more loving person.