Love is Not Proud
Growing up I was confused by love and pride. I wondered why love could not be proud in a positive connotation, such as when you are proud of your accomplishments, or when you are proud of your children for how strong they are. But then I realized I was being too literal. Sure, the saying has been translated to the word "proud" but in Spanish there are two different words for pride: orgullo and soberbia. "Orgullo" is pride in the more neutral sense, but "soberbia" is more like proud, as in, "self important." English has so many words, but sometimes there aren't enough.
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From Oxford Dictionaries:
Proud:
- feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one's own achievements, qualities, or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated: "a proud grandma of three boys" · [more]synonyms: pleased · glad · happy · delighted · joyful · overjoyed · thrilled · satisfied
- (of an event, achievement, etc.) causing someone to feel this way: "we have a proud history of innovation"synonyms: pleasing · gratifying · satisfying · cheering · heartwarming · happy · [more]
- having or showing a high or excessively high opinion of oneself or one's importance: "a proud, arrogant man"
- having or showing a consciousness of one's own dignity: "I was too proud to go home"synonyms: arrogant · conceited · vain · self-important · full of oneself
Vain:
- having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth: "their flattery made him vain"synonyms: conceited · narcissistic
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Love is not arrogant (like I said in my last post), it is not conceited or vain. It is not self-important or self-righteous. Love is delightful, pleasing and satisfying. Love is not proud in the negative connotation.
Because love is not proud.
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From Merriam Webster:
Proud:
1: feeling or showing pride: such as
a: having or displaying excessive self-esteem
b: much pleased : exultant
c: having proper self-respect
2: marked by stateliness : magnificent
a : giving reason for pride : glorious
the proudest moment in her life
3: vigorous, spirited
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"Above all, you must fight conceit, envy, and every kind of ill-feeling in your heart." -Abraham Cahan
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"Conceit is an insuperable obstacle to all progress." -Ellen Terry
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"There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. 'Good pride' represents our dignity and self-respect. 'Bad pride' is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance." -John C. Maxwell
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I guess that "pride" is one of those words that wouldn't be used in the book "The Giver" because it's not precise enough. Obviously there are times when "taking pride in" can mean "pleased by," and a "proud mama of two babies" can mean a "delighted mama of two babies." But in every negative way you can use the word pride, it is not love. Because love is never negative; it is always positive!
What you write makes me think bit more about what is love. Somehow love is hard to explain in words. for me Love is a self love with forgiveness at the same time also love others unconditionally. :)
Yes, sometimes there aren't enough words to describe love! You put it beautifully -- we should always love others unconditionally! 😊
Much love @uglysweater! Have a lovely day with smile:)
The same for you, sweet @gladysmak! 😁
Indeed. Love isn't proud. But love is fierce. Love has to be loud and sometimes even violent. In a world with so many negative emotions leading society, love has to make itself be heard. Not because it is more important but because it is necessary, and too often we forget we need love above all things. Thank you for sharing.
Yes, @agnikana! Love is fierce and powerful, needed above all things! Thank you for your comment! 😊
Pride isn't thinking too much of yourself;
It's thinking of yourself too much!
That's right. It's possible to be prideful even while you're putting
yourself down, saying, "Woe is me. I'm just not worthy, just not good
enough." Your focus is still on yourself! You're focused on yourself just
as much as the person who thinks too highly of himself or herself.
You're still thinking of yourself! You can't be thinking of another
person's well being. You're too self-focused. That's pride! Never mind
you're unworthiness. God doesn't make junk. You're worthy because he
makes you worthy. And guess what? You're no better than the next
guy. You have nothing that God didn't give you, and nothing he can't
take back in a moment. So you have nothing to focus on about yourself,
either thinking too highly of yourself, or thinking too lowly of yourself.
Quit thinking about yourself. It’s not about you! Love is not proud. It
doesn't focus on self. It focuses on God, and the well being of others.
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I think love is a feeling that arises after each other is based on love affection. so that at the end of both these beings already have a sense of affection then there lies the mahabbah in the sense of LOVE. thank you for sharing the life information about love
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Thanks for your comment, @syakiran.balya!
Thank you for your analysis of proud. I have wondered about love being proud but had accepted it at face value. This makes so much more sense.
I'm glad it makes sense! Thank you for your comment! 😊
Real love is not pride as it is not shame. Real love is just love. it is something to feel not to feel about, it is personal so you can't be proud or shameful of it. Thanks @uglysweater :)
Exactly. Thanks, @alignment! 😊
Hey very well written article. I think pride and love goes side by side. You can't compromise love in pride and vice a versa. I don't think that anybody would let go of his pride if he is in true love or not. Otherwise, it is not love, in my point of view.