Do Not Be Basing Your Happiness Upon Others

"I shouldn't be basing my happiness on what I want to have." This is an age-old advice that we heard when we were children and it has always held good for me. Yet many people ignore this advice in favor of chasing their own goals, which usually lead to less happiness. Here's why you shouldn't be basing your happiness upon what you want to have:


The fact is, if you are basing your happiness upon what you don't have, you will go through life feeling unhappy. You see, when you are unaware of what you do have, you will often feel like you don't deserve all the things that you desire. When you base your happiness on what you do have, however, you will see that you do deserve all the good things in life. It will also become a lot easier to obtain these things as you won't have as many goals and therefore more room for improvement. Here's why you shouldn't be basing your happiness upon what you don't have:

The most important thing that you should be doing is living in accordance with who you are. This means that you should be happy with the person that you are, and not what you think you should be or could be. If you think that you are happy, then you should be happy, regardless of what you have.

There are people who will argue that they don't want to be happy, but the truth is, they want to be. In most cases, when you hear someone say that they don't want to be happy, it really means that they don't want to have the things that they desire. They don't want to do the things that they know they should, just because they don't want to. The difference between people is their belief about themselves and their desires.

Now that we have made the distinction between basing your happiness upon what you want and basing your happiness upon what you don't have, you should not be basing your happiness upon what others think of you. If you truly feel happy about yourself, then other people will perceive your actions in a positive light. When you are happy, no one is going to want to ruin your day. Your day is only going to be better when you are happy. People like to support others that are succeeding in life, and therefore when you have the belief that you are successful, then people will be around you more often.

You should not be basing your happiness upon what other people tell you. If you surround yourself with people who are negative and discourage you from being happy, then you are not going to become happy. If other people tell you that you should be happy and then you are not happy, then you should not listen to them. Happiness is something that you create for yourself. Other people can only provide you with information.

You should look to yourself, and only you, when it comes to being happy. There will be people in your life that are happier than you are. When you surround yourself with people that are negative, then you become depressed.


As you become more educated about life, you will find that you are not basing your happiness upon what others tell you. You should listen to your own thoughts and feelings. When you are happy, you will feel great in body, mind, and spirit. When you are depressed, you will feel like a failure, and this can affect your ability to have enjoyment in life. Happiness is a choice that only you can make for yourself.