SteemChurch:The balance in the family

We all have a definite role in life, there is no person who does not know what is his role in this world and I do not mean the call of God or the mission of our life, I mean something as simple as when we are born we are children and always we will be, the time will come in our life when we will be husbands and then we will be mothers or fathers, in the family there is always and there will be a defined role for us.

It is important that each member of the family knows very well what are their sets of duties and responsibilities in the role that corresponds, if this is not defined for each, then a chaotic entity is created without guidance or direction where each member will make or will fail according to his whim and look.

Who defines the roles in the home? First they are defined in the Bible as a manual of life for the human being, highlighting that the family is a design of God "... And God blessed them and said to them: Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth, and subdue it, and rule over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and all the beasts that move on the earth ... "Genesis 1:28

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Who had to fructify and multiply? For Adam and Eve, in other words the Creator told him to unite and have children, the union of the two is established to create a family, we also see the foundation of the family in Genesis 2:24 "... Therefore, he will leave the man to his father and his mother, and he will be united to his wife, and they will be one flesh ... "

If God is the one who designs the family He then defines the roles and duties of each member, and we see all those statutes throughout the entire Scripture, either as a mandate or as a history with teaching. Today's message is addressed to fathers, mothers and children so that through the Bible we see and understand what is the role that each one must fulfill in the family so that it is strong, united and blessed.

We will start first with the children, why? Because we are all children and they are always the misunderstood (especially during adolescence), the scolded, who see everything against them and nothing in their favor, and much of this is due to the imbalance that is generated by not having established and clear the duties and rights that they must have and exercise.

The rights of children are those that by nature must be fulfilled by parents or representatives, the rights of the child are automatically the duties of the parents to them, the child must be fed and educated in the first instance, that is, is right of the parents to provide food and education, Provision "... for if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever ..." 1 Timothy 5: 8

All parents have a duty to provide the correct nutrition and to cover all those physical needs (health, clothing and nutrition) of their children. Another right that the child has and that is the duty of the parents is to receive education and we do not speak only in the school, the education comes in the home and in the school the acquisition of knowledge must come.

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The most important education that can be given to a child is not the secular but the spiritual one, because that would guarantee him an awareness that God exists and demands behavior, as well as a pattern of fearful and respectful behavior towards his parents, Creator and his neighbors "... Train the child in his way, and even when he is old he will not turn away from him ..." Proverbs 22: 6.

Now, not everything is right, there are also the duties, and these are the ones that children like least; next we mention the favorite verse of all the fathers "... Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is just. Honor your father and your mother, which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth ... "(Ephesians 6: 1-3)

Understand and expand the meaning of honor; goes beyond obedience, honor implies leaving the name of your parents aloud with your behavior and actions, whether they are present or not, therefore, when the Bible speaks of honor to the parents, it means that the behavior that the children have is so appropriate, so correct and so good that wherever they go people can witness not only the behavior of the child but the parents.

In a previous preaching we spoke of obedience and how it brought reward from God because He is pleased with it and blesses those who fulfill it, likewise the reward has promised long and prosperous life to those who obey their parents.

Always when I was a teenager I lived complaining about my parents' constant sending and how they were driving me crazy (typical of every teenager) and every time I was quoted the verse "honor your father and mother ..." my Bible response was automatic "... And you, parents, do not provoke your children to anger ...", never said the whole verse because it did not suit me at all, the complete verse says: "... And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and admonition of the Lord ... "Ephesians 6: 4

This verse reflects the balance in the home that must exist between parents and children, between obedience and treatment of children, it is not about shouting, stubborn or impatient, if your son is disobedient discipline him and worship him in him Lord, showing him the flaws in the light of the Bible.

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We have talked about the duties of the children and that the rights of these are the duty of the Fathers, but are there rights for the parents? Of course, they have the right to demand from their children the duties that correspond to them, that is, parents have the right to demand their children to be responsible in their studies, in their behavior, to demand respect for them. and their peers, that the rules of behavior that have been established in the home are met, and that the duties assigned in the household chores for the children are executed. Every home must have rules clearly established by the parents and these must be fulfilled by the children, it is the duty and right of the parents to demand respect for them and it is the duty of the children to obey.

In conclusion dear brothers, whether you are a son or a father, there must be a balance between your duties and rights, well-established household norms are very important for a home to be functional, teach your child in the word of God and the importance of obedience, do not exasperate him and discipline him.

On the other hand, your children obey and honor their parents, fulfill their tasks and duties, this is a sign of gratitude to their parents for all the things they have given and done for you.

A home that has Christ as its foundation stone, is governed by the Bible and that has established rules will be blessed in peace, harmony and prosperity, strive, analyze and find balance in the home.