Understanding and Accepting Yourself

Do you think it is impossible to understand and accept yourself as you are? Do you always think that no matter what you try it is not enough? Do you always look outside yourself to validate what you're doing and/or who you are? Don't you always sacrifice your own happiness in order to make others happy?

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Many times we go through life saying, "I can't do this, it's not me, it's this or that." And we let our circumstances to define who we are. We say, "No, I can't do that." And then we do just what we have to do in order to pass through the pain and suffering. But deep down we know that we are okay and that we are a valuable part of this world. It means saying yes to yourself and to others.

Low self-esteem and acceptance are intimately intertwined. If one is low, it means that he thinks of himself as defective, poor, helpless, stupid, undesirable, unwanted, etc. The low self-esteem creates low self-acceptance, which leads to low self-esteem and low self-awareness. When low self-esteem and low self-acceptance exist together, the person is stuck in a vicious cycle of thinking patterns: thinking that he is unworthy, negative, useless, unintelligent, poor, helpless, unintuitive, inadequate, unintelligent, unintreative, and so on. He cannot change those thinking patterns and therefore he cannot change his circumstances.

A healthy self-esteem and acceptance allow you to feel good about yourself, even when you don't feel good about yourself. You can accept and be happy about who you are. You can feel good about yourself without feeling guilty, unworthy, or inadequate. When you have a healthy self-image and acceptance, you will be able to reach great heights in your career and in your relationships. Your happiness will increase as will your success in your endeavors.

Most successful people have a healthy self-esteem and acceptance. When they accept themselves as they are at peace with themselves and their world. When you say yes to yourself, to life, to situations, to people, and to anything that comes your way, you will find that you will experience a tremendous amount of peace and contentment.

A major breakthrough in improving your self-esteem and self-worth is realizing that you are an amazing human being with qualities unique to you. You have all kinds of amazing qualities and you were made the way you are because you want to be. You choose what you want to do, have, and feel. You are the result of your choices, so learning to accept yourself and be happy with who you are is a major step on the road to self-acceptance and self-worth.

Another major key to improving your self-esteem and self-worth is to learn to understand yourself and how you respond to things. You can develop a great attitude towards yourself, towards others, and towards life in general by understanding yourself. One of the major keys to improving your attitude towards yourself is learning to change your inner negative inner dialog to positive inner dialog. Many people have a hard time changing their inner dialogue when they are stuck believing what they are told by themselves, their negative inner dialog, and how they react towards themselves, others, and life in general.

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One of the best ways to change your inner dialogue is to understand yourself. You can then begin to accept yourself and develop a better understanding of how you respond to things, how you react towards others, and how you view yourself. This will also help you develop a better self-image and self-esteem and make you more open to changing yourself for the better if you must. So, the next time that you see an insult, negative comment, or any other kind of bad attitude, don't think back on you and say "but I'm the one who deserved it!"