Confidence is a Quality That Comes From Knowing Yourself

Confidence is a state of mind or outlook one has towards his/her environment, oneself and things. It is not something to be arrogance about or to boast of. To have confidence in oneself is a good thing. It is having positive and constructive thoughts and attitudes towards life that will lead to success in life.

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One way of boosting up your confidence level is through positive self talk. This is where you ask yourself what you have to offer to the world. What kind of person am I and what would I like to do? There are different ways on how to do this, one is through writing your personal reflection for yourself, another is through writing a list of accomplishments that you have achieved in your past.

Once you have done your self-talk, it is now time to conduct a mini-interview with yourself. This is to gauge what you have to offer the world. Here are some questions to ponder on when conducting your self-talk:

• Am I a good person? Do I have the self-respect and confidence to be able to do the things that I love? Am I the type of person that makes others feel good and appreciated? Does my behavior show that I am a reliable and dependable person?

• What does my life look like compared to my image of myself? Am I confident enough in who I am? Am I confident enough in what I am doing with my life? Am I a good example of who I should be as an individual?

• How important do I think I am to myself and to others? Am I a worthwhile person? Am I a person that other people can take pride in? Am I a person that demonstrates a sense of humor and style?

• How important is friendship to me? Am I good enough and worthy of being a friend? Am I self-confident enough to have good friends? How many of my friends are self-confident enough to speak highly of me? Am I good enough to be a part of this world?

• What is good about me? Am I good enough for this world? Am I a person worthy of respect and admiration? Can I contribute anything good to the world if I don't even know myself?

• Willing to change. Am I willing to change in order to better myself? Can I grow in my situation because of my confidence level? Am I willing to take risks that might cause me inner shame and inner pain if I don't know myself well enough to be able to accept them? Will I ever know who I truly am, or if I have an authentic self worth?

• Growth and development. What will I become if I have confidence that comes from knowing myself? How can I grow in my situation and career if I don't have the courage to step outside of my comfort zone? How can I teach others to have the same self confidence?

• Love and acceptance. Am I at peace in my world? Am I content with what is around me and what I do for a living? Is my knowledge of the world and of life relative to my experience of life as it exists now? Am I grateful for all that I have?

• Resources. When I say resources, I mean those things that make up my life: good relationships with people, my career, my education, spiritual growth, etc. If my confidence is self-sustaining, I will always have what I need to get through each moment; even when I face a seemingly impossible challenge.
  
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• Self-confidence is not about what others think of me. It is about who I am in my own eyes. It is about respecting and loving me unconditionally. If I do not respect and love myself, how can anyone else do so? My love and appreciation of myself will extend to others, thus creating a positive impact on the world I live in.