LOVE PUSHES BUT TOLERANCE SUSTAINS

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Of course you cannot get married to someone you dont love,or you cannot date someone you dont love.love is very vital in a relationship,most relationships are build on love

Personally for me i cannot get married to someone i dont love,i cant even date someone i dont love not to talk of getting married to the person,i use to tell myself that even if its going to take a long period of time for me to see someone i truly love,i will wait.

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People thinks that love keeps a relationship going,but that is not true,although love is needed at the begnining of a relationship,but love does not sustain a relationship,then if love does not sustain a relationship,what does? of course its TOLERANCE

Tolerance can simlply be defined as the capacity to be able to edure the behaviour of someone,without tolerance today,many relationship would have hit the rock,love might push you to someone but tolerace definately keeps the relationship going

if you are in a relationship with someone today,no matter how much you love the person if you are not able to tolerate his or her characters,then the relationship might not just last.

Have had of a marriage not relationship this timr around o,this couple are legally married,but after some time,the woman divorced her husband, Why? she complained that he farts alot,when they are having sex,he fart,when they are sleeping,he farts,even when they are eating,funny but very true,this is not a made up story,what happend? It is not as if she does not love her husband,of course she does,but she cannot just tolerate his behaviour,she cannot just cope with it,love push her to the man,but again tolerance is pushing her away.

Tolerance is not something easy,especially of you dislike the behaviour like for example not replacing the water in the toilet,i remembered when i was living with my aunt,then her husband used to complain she wear slippers inside,and my aunt cannot do with wearing slippers,her husband had not choice but to tolerate her behaviour,any time he sees he slippers inside,he would quietly take them out,that is what we call tolerance,he has learnt to tolerate her behaviour of wearing slippers inside,had it been he is not tolerant,probably they would have divorced

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All these are even minor issues,there are some other serious behaviour you can find in someone you claim to love other than farting and wearing of slippers,behaviour like inablility to wake up early in the morning to cook,inability to remember some special occasions,or inabilitu to keep the house clean,but what can you do,since you claim to love this person,you just have to tolerate the behaviours,nothing more but tolerance and keep telling your partner in a loving way to change.

Some people especially guys are very poor in correcting,they do so harshly that it sometimes lead to quarrel,guys please remember no one is perfect,next time you want to correct her,do so in a loving way,advice sinks well if its done in a loving way instead of the harsh way,and to the ladies,no one likes an admant person,once you are being corected,please take to it,it might not seem easily at the moment,but later you will get used to it

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To married people out there,my candid advice to you is to imbibe the tolerance character,remember love push you to your partner so dont let tolernace tear you apart,and to the singles out there,always have it at the back of your mind that no one is perfect,so why finding your Mr or Miss right promise to love both their good and bad sides.

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