Why we choose~

In every moment a choice exists. We can cling to the past or embrace the inevitability of change and allow a brighter future to unfold before us. Such an uncertain future may call for even more uncertain allies. Either way, a new day is coming whether we like it or not. The question is will you control it, or will it control you?
Choice Theory – The only person’s behavior you can control is your own.
The only thing you can give is information
Choice theory posits behaviours we choose are central to our existence. Our behaviour (choices) are driven by five genetically driven needs> survival, love and belonging, freedom, fun and power.
Survival needs include>>>
food
Comparing, where we compare-contrast our perception of people, places, and things immediately in front of us against our ideal images (archetypes) of these in our Quality World framework. Our subconscious pushes us towards calibrating—as best we can—our real world experience with our Quality World (archetypes).

Behavior ("Total Behavior" in Glasser's terms) is made up of these four components: acting, thinking, feeling, and physiology. Glasser suggests we have considerable control or choice over the first two of these; yet, little ability to directly choose the latter two as they are more deeply sub- and unconscious. These four components remain closely intertwined, the choices we make in our thinking and acting greatly affect our feeling and physiology.

A big conclusion, is the source of much personal unhappiness is failing or failed relationships with people important to us: spouses, parents, children, friends and colleagues.

The symptoms of unhappiness are widely variable and are often seen as mental illness. "pleasure" and "happiness" are related but are far from synonymous. Sex, for example, is a "pleasure" but may well be divorced from a "satisfactory relationship" which is a precondition for lasting "happiness" in life. Hence the intense focus on the improvement of relationships in counseling with choice theory

Choice theory posits most mental illness is, in fact, an expression of unhappiness. We are able to learn and choose alternate behaviors resulting in greater personal satisfaction.

#The only person whose behavior we can control is our own.
#All we can give another person is information.
#All long-lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
#The problem relationship is always part of our present life.
#What happened in the past has everything to do with what we are today, but we can only satisfy our basic needs right now and plan to continue satisfying them in the future.
#We can only satisfy our needs by satisfying the pictures in our Quality World.
#All we do is behave.
#All behavior is made up of four components: acting, thinking, feeling and physiology
#All behavior is chosen, but we only have direct control over the acting and thinking components. We can only control our feeling and physiology indirectly through how we choose to act and think.
#All behavior is designated by verbs and named by the part that is the most recognizable

~Before he was unable to make a choice because he didn't know what would happen. Now that he knows what will happen, he is unable to make a choice.~
In chess, it's called Zugzwang... when the only viable move...is not to move

Rule #1: Know your audience.
Rule number 2. You never lose everything
Rule #3 There are no rules
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