What do you belive about your relationship?

Our beliefs as formed by the way our archetypes interpret our experiences. Here is an example of some archetypes: the independent, the risk taker, the fearful, the perfectionist, The optimist, the skeptic etc, etc

I am in the process of building a chicken coup. The Independent Scott will not ask for help. He belives that peole are unreliable. The Perfectionist Scott knows that he is not a great carpenter and Fearful Scott is afraid that it will not come out right. The optimist Scott believes that if he just does his best it will come out ok.

We should be Skeptical of what we believe and why. Most people don't change their belief bubble unless something catastrophic happens. It doesn't have to be this way.

What if we identified all of our archetypes, and examined all the different perspectives? A cool exercise I did was to write down as many of my own archetypes as I could identify. I then wrote down what each archetype believed about relationships.
I was amazed at all the different beliefs. It was like I had multiple personality syndrome.

Another important thing that I discovered is that now I could choose from the list the beliefs that served me best in my relationship. I also took full responsibility for my other " personalities" and discussed my beliefs with my partner. Once again I was amazed at what a relief it was to discuss this.

One morning I was sitting in the kitchen and my girlfriend's phone went on. I glanced at the phone and it was a message from some guy that I had never heard of. When she walked in told her that her phone went off. She picked up the phone and never said a word to me. I was steaming, excuse the pun. Insecure Scott thought right away that she had a side guy. Jealous Scott was afraid that "side guy" would steal her. I acted as if everything was normal and took some time to meditate on this. This was not her problem it was mine. I was responsible to rectify it, not her. So I made my list. Confident Scott knew there was no problem here. Later we talked about it and she told me it was a wrong number. I told her it didn't matter because I trusted her but, when the phone went off it made me feel funny.

Sometimes what we believe is not the truth. Its just a reflection of our various archetypes. If we could identify theses beliefs we can be much happier in our relationships and have less drama