CAUSES OF MARITAL FAILURE AND RELATIONSHIP MATTERS BY@SHIMMO:PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE NOT WEDDING

Hellow lovely steemians, am so happy to be here this morning .How are you doing today.cheer up! You are the giants of Africa indeed.never give up! Your miracle is on the way. Meanwhile i will like to appreciate the effort of @xkool24, @ngoenyi and as many who has put up a tireless effort to create such an incredible community for Nigerians and even friends of nigerians all over the world.Thank you so much. Your efforts are really appreciated.In this community ,i will like to introduce some useful series on CAUSES OF MARITAL FAILURE" and RELATIONSHIP MATTERS that will be very important to all Nigerian youth especially those about to marry and others that are already in marriage seeing that marital conflict has become the order of the day in our society today.

Nigeria is a country with not less than 250 ethnic groups and these ethnic groups have different cultures and believes that brings neglects and degradation mostly on the females than males,depriving them of basic needs and honour due to them like education ,career and other leadership abilities in them and as a result, this has raised a huge argument in our societies today .All these things combined with the economic situation of the country if not well managed can lead to MARITAL FAILURE.Therefore,based on research, if you really want to have a PEACEFUL HOME there are certain area of our life that you need to PREPARE before going into MARRIAGE.Today, i will like to share with us a topic that says

PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE NOT WEDDING

Please for today ,i will like to concentrate on the ladies . men dont conclude yet because am cOming for you .marriage is a mutual responsibility.
Many single ladies today rush into marriage because their friends are married without even thinking of what they are going into.Hear me ,marriage is a lifetime journey and lifetime is too long to be bitter,that is the reason why you need to prepare. Many single ladies are just interested in wearing imported white gown from los angelos and bestsellers foeign shoes from US hence they preare more for wedding than marriage .Hear me young ladies.The success of your wedding does not guarantee success in marriage.marriage is meant for you and your husband but wedding is mearnt to impress family and friends be wise.if your wedding is more colorful than your marriage that simply insinuate that you failed to prepare well.

REASONS WHY YOU MUST PREPARE

1 .Good preparation makes you competent in domestic chores.÷

its so disappointing that many beautiful young elegant ladies you see in the street today can not cook or wash except indomy.Mr bigs,chicken Republic etc
2.How you prepare determines your relevance to your spouse÷
.many ladies dont
know that in as much as they want a hard workingman that the man is also looking up to them to work hard.That is the major reason why God made EVE for ADAM and called her a help meet(genesis 3:18). The man is not a money producing machine.
3.Preparation helps you in choosing whom to marry.÷
you need to read books on marriage,litsen to tapes,go for seminars on marriage and Relationships and ofcorse prayer should not be out of place because God is the author of marriage.
4.preparation helps you to learn conflict management÷
.it not when your spouse is flaring up, you too will flare up.two wrongs can not make a right.calm down first.
5.your preparation will determine how far will be able to carry you family spiritually÷
a prayerless home automatically becomes a prey in the hand of the devil hence learn t pray.(luk18:1)

In conclusion, marriage is a sweet and enjoyable affair but how you handle it may make or mar it.WHEN A MAN FAILS TO PLAN ,HE|SHE AUTOMATICALLY PLANS TO FAIL.may the grace of God help you in Jesus name...thanks for reading,In our next edition am going to talk about the men andshow you both some of the areas of PREPARATION .It will suprise you .