give and don't expect back

Introduction

I am motivated today to discuss one topic I find very essential to human existence and that is giving. There is no gainsaying the fact that giving is the very essence of life. As humans, we are created to always give. We are meant to complement each other. No one is created to live as an island.

Giving is so important that it is made an essential component of procreation. During copulation, the male gives some spermatozoa to the female who receives it and gives her egg up such that the spermatozoa fertilizes it. There after, the fertilized egg is constantly given food and nutrition through the giving effort of the female womb. After these, a complex chain of events result in the birth of a child. All these started from giving just one spermatozoa.

What is Giving?

Giving is (a): to make a present of e.g give a doll to a child (b) to grant or bestow by formal action e.g the law gives citizens the right to vote (c) : to accord or yield to another e.g gave him/her confidence
(d) : to put into the possession of another for his or her use e.g gave me his phone number ¹

We as humans need to develop the attitude of giving. Like the holy book puts it, it is more honorable to give than to receive. Giving is the whole essence of humanity. People exist because they have to give.

Whenever you have an opportunity to give, do not shake or grumble. Every opportunity to give is an opportunity to grow.

Give And Expect Nothing

It is important that you understand this aspect of giving. One of the most important aspect of giving is to give without expecting anything in return. Often times people give because they are expecting a return from the receiver. When this does not come, they feel bad that the receiver did not show appreciation.

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It is very much more honorable to give without expecting any kick back or give back from the receiver. There are so many things we give expecting a return which often never comes. For instance, when you give love, do not always expect a love back. Some will return your love with hatred or something even more sinister. If you were not expecting any love back for instance in this case, you won't grumble or feel bad that someone let you down.

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You need to understand that many people do not see life as you do so do not always expect people to behave as you would like. It is also important that you don't give only those who can repay you or give you back.

If you give and receive repayment, you transacted a business and the weight of satisfaction naturally felt by givers may not be completely felt by you. This is not to say in any case, that giving someone and receiving back is bad. If this is the terms of the agreement, it is also a great way to help.

Majority of Receivers Ingrates?

I do not think so. There are many receivers who actually take time to appreciate those who helped them out. There is also a handful of receivers who take it as a right to have received from you and therefore have no feeling of owing you any form of appreciation.

The point here is that as a giver, you would never feel anyone is an ingrate if you were not expecting a give back in any form from them.

The cognitive dissonance that you are feeling is because you have not come to appreciate the fundamentals of giving as expressed above. If you had given and forgotten without any expectation for a return then you would never have felt bad in the first place so will never label anyone an ingrate.

develop the right attitude of giving

The Right Attitude

You need to know that giving is a privilege. I would rather be a giver than a receiver. The attitude you applied in giving is therefore very key in maintaining the spirit that is giving-oriented.

The very fact that you are a giver puts you more in a position to continue to give. It is therefore very important that you encourage and nurture that innate desire to give or help whenever the need arises.

Conclusion

In conclusion, I want to encourage everyone of you that is out there to imbibe the spirit of giving. More importantly, the type of giving being advocated here which is a giving without expectation for repayment.

Giving is an attitude. If you develop the right attitude of giving, be sure that you will give your way to the top. Do not grumble again when a receiver failed to show appreciation or tried to repay you with evil.

Instead of feeling bad that someone you gave to paid you back with evil, consider yourself lucky in the first place to have been in a position to give. Would you rather you were a receiver? I guess not!!!

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Reference

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/giving ¹