Learning to Label Your Feelings - The 3 Best Habits to Label Your Feelings

The habit to label your feelings is a practice that should be adopted with care. You do not want to become so dependent on this mechanism that you lose touch with your authentic self. There are some people who think that because they have embraced the practice of identifying their true feelings, that it has become part of them and they have abandoned real communication. This is why some people regard the habit as a hindrance rather than an advantage.


True feelings come to you spontaneously. They are not manufactured or shaped by anyone else. You cannot be anxious over not being able to express your anger without having a 'feelings' response. When you feel something is wrong you immediately try to identify what it is. As you look deeper into the problem, you find out what it really is. This process is totally natural and does not require any effort on your part.

In fact, feelings come to you through the way you relate to your environment. If you are stressed out you will experience anger and other feelings. The feelings arise because you are experiencing the consequences of your stress. If you have a positive relationship with your co-workers then you will experience happiness and other positive feelings. This is because you are surrounded by people who love you and care for you. When you reject these feelings it results in depression and other related problems.

The habit of identifying and labeling your feelings is useful only when you can put a label on them. When you experience sadness for instance, you do not say, "This is sadness". Instead, you will understand what it is. You will realize that it is not good and you will be able to change your environment so that you do not get stressed over it anymore. Once you understand the nature of your feelings then you are capable of dealing with them in a better manner.

By labeling your feelings you can take some important decisions about your life. For instance, if you find that you are angry all the time, you can decide to change your environment so that there are more happy people around you. This will help you cope up with the emotion of anger. Instead of saying things like, "I am so angry that I am going to burn myself", you will be able to say things like, "I am feeling very sad because I am upset about something that happened in my life and it is upsetting me". You will also be able to understand that you are not always right and this will help you not to react negatively all the time.

Another habit to label your feelings is your habit of judging other people. You may be able to understand the behavior of other people but you may not be able to put a label to it. This is especially true in relationships. People try to act indifferent when they have strong emotions. However, the truth is that you need to understand how your partner or any other person feels about what you are doing.

A third habit to label your feelings is your habit of procrastination. There is no use trying to understand another's behavior if you are not going to do anything about it. The best thing that you can do is to set some time aside for yourself and try to understand the situation. By understanding the situation you will be able to solve it quickly. Procrastination is caused by fear of failure. If you can learn to deal with the fear of failure, you will be able to accomplish anything.


Finally, if you are feeling bad you will try to hide the real problem. If you are dealing with a broken relationship, you may convince yourself that you are better off alone because no one will notice. However, you can only achieve success if you tell the other person about your problem. If you feel bad you should let the other person know that you are a changed person who is willing to change for the better.