Dealing With Your Emotions Are A Part Of Emotionally Intelligent Management

Handling Emotions are part of the Personal Development curriculum offered through International Coach School. In the first module, students are introduced to terms like "emotional intelligence", "self-awareness" and "personal integrity". This is followed by twelve-part DVD series, including "The Power Pause". This is followed by the Emotional Intelligence Workshops, which introduces the concept of Emotional Intelligence and elaborates on how to measure emotional intelligence competencies.


The Emotional Intelligence Workshops cover topics such as: How do you feel when... What does it feel like when...? What did you do when...?

The Emotional Intelligence Workshops help students understand what emotional intelligence is and how to apply it in daily situations. Emotionally intelligent people know how to manage their emotions so they are in control of their feelings; they can express their emotions without fear of blowing up or getting angry; and they can express their feelings without procrastinating. This ability is the foundation of successful interpersonal communication.

Emotional Intelligence is broken down into twelve-part skills. The first skill is awareness. Being aware of yourself and others around you is the starting point for improving your interpersonal relationship skills. You need to know who you are, what you like and dislike; and how to express those things effectively. In this module, the concepts of assertiveness, non-egotistic self-esteem, and assertive interpersonal communication skills are discussed.

The next skill is self-awareness. Self-awareness helps you realize your own behaviors that lead to conflict. It also helps you change your behaviors in order to create better interpersonal relationships. In this module, the concepts of assertiveness, empathy, and non-egotistic self-esteem are discussed.

The third skill is perspective-taking. People with an emotional intelligence that is strong tend to be good problem solvers. They see the big picture and plan ahead. They have a clear understanding of what needs to happen next. Their thinking is not limited by what is happening in the present moment; they can view future situations with clear eyes.

The fourth skill is imagination. This part of Emotional Intelligence has to do with creativity. The creative person is able to think of many solutions to problems instead of just relying on one obvious solution. They can think of new ways of getting the same results; or even create entirely new concepts. This part of Emotional Intelligence is very important.

The last part of Emotional Intelligence is courage. People with this ability are not afraid to take risks. They also don't run from their fears; they confront them and conquer them. The strong people we all admire, such as Robert Kennedy, Nelson Rockefeller, and Martin Luther King, have all had to deal with major phobias. So you see, Emotional Intelligence can be developed, but it takes work.

You have probably heard about the twelve-step program that helps people get off drugs. Well, if you're addicted to a drug, you need to realize that you have to take control of yourself. You can't let your dependence alter who you are. In fact, you need to stay the same as you were before you got addicted. The 12-step program helps you get there; it's not a cure.

When you're dealing with your emotions, you need to understand that they are usually rational; they have their reasons for doing what they do. If you try to change those reasons, you change your whole behavior. It doesn't make them right; it makes them weak. Weak people can't rise up and defend themselves. That's why you should always remain calm.

Emotional Intelligence is about learning how to manage your emotions. You don't want to be overwhelmed by your emotions; you want to be in control. Don't allow yourself to be easily swayed by what your emotions say; that will only make you susceptible to the persuasions of others. You have to keep control of your feelings; otherwise you'll be lost in the whirlpool of emotions.


People who have been successful in life are those who have been able to manage their emotions. They know how to deal with their feelings. They don't let their emotions get the best of them; they don't let themselves get hurt or use their power for wrong reasons. They use their intelligence and build up inner strength.