Why You Can't Change Others

This is the worst advice you can receive when trying to lose weight. This is known to be one of the most common mistakes that dieters make, because they think that they can control the way other people act. You can't change other people, you can only change yourself. Here are 4 reasons why I think this advice is stupid.


If a person wants to help you lose weight, he or she will tell you that you should avoid eating certain foods or not doing certain things. For example, a dieter might tell you that you shouldn't eat fruits. They may say that vegetables are great, but you can't listen to them. You can't control what other people are doing. You can only control your own actions.

Another reason that people feel like they can control what other people do is that they don't want to do those things. You see, all of us have a tendency to want to be the person that is in control. If we think that we can be bossy and decide how our meals are going to go, then we will definitely have a hard time losing weight. You see, all of us have a desire to be respected and to be able to set our own boundaries. The minute you let someone tell you that you can't do something because you don't agree with them, it makes you feel like your opinion doesn't matter.

Lastly, if someone tells you that you should think differently than you think, or if they are trying to change you, then they are trying to manipulate you. Remember that all of us possess power in our brains. The thing is that we use that power in a way that will benefit us and not hurt us. You can choose whether or not you want to be controlled by someone else.

People feel like they can control the way that others act when they are in a certain situation. You see, if you are in a situation where you don't want to be treated badly, then you can always think of ways to be different from the way that you normally act. That is how you can get people to change for you. Just remember that everything you do is a choice.

If you are thinking "I can't change other people. They would never want to be with me" then you have a choice. You can either think differently, or you can simply try to act differently from the way that you normally act. I can assure you though, that if you do change, then you will experience something that you have never experienced before. This is something that most people never even think about.

You see, most people who feel like they can't be changed like to blame someone else. The best way for you to do this is for you to blame yourself. When you blame someone else, then you are going to be able to control your emotions. You should know that whenever you blame someone, then it is not going to be easy for you to change. You need to be able to control yourself, otherwise you are going to allow your emotions to rule your life.


The bottom line is that you simply just need to find a way to think differently from the way that you normally think. Remember, the problem wasn't with them, it was with you. So, rather than wasting your time being angry at them, why not try and change the way that you think about the situation? If you follow this advice, then you will be able to change other people for the better.