How to Make Positive Connections With People

One of the most common questions I get from couples is 'Do you experience any positive connections with your spouse or are they?' This question has a simple answer and a more complex answer. The simple answer is that we all experience positive connections with those in our lives, but some of us have more than others. What we call positive connections are simply everyday moments that make us smile, laugh, feel good or otherwise 'feel good'. It doesn't seem to matter who we are or what we do, everyone can have positive connections with someone else. So, then, why do some of us have more positive connections with others than others?


One major reason that some of us are more positive towards others than others is that we have more 'togetherness' in our relationships. People who are close to have close relationships. And as close relationships become more established in your life, you find yourself putting more effort into creating more positive connections with others. You are no longer working in a vacuum, where there is only 'me' and 'we'.

Another reason that we may experience more positive connections with others is that we spend time with them and share time together. Spending time together creates a space that allows for positive emotions to arise. As my clients know too well, when you are around someone who you love and spend time with them all the time, this kind of atmosphere can spark feelings within you that you may not have had in years. Spending time with a loved one can be one of the best ways to create a relationship that has depth and longevity.

Finally, another reason that we may have more positive connections with others than others is that we are more likely to be around other people who are like-minded and also sensitive to our needs. People who are happy and fulfilled in their own relationships also provide similar positive connections with others. If you are around someone who is positive, loving, and has high self-esteem, he or she will be very likely to provide you with similar positive connections. As I mentioned before, the key is to find people who are like-minded and who are also sensitive to your needs and interests. This way, you are more likely to have positive interactions with each other.

The key to creating positive connections with others lies in the first concept - being Yourself. If you are true to yourself, then you will become more honest with those whom you are close to. This includes your loved ones. Insecurity about your true nature or masking it will only serve to keep you from expressing yourself honestly. To develop a true, authentic connectedness, you must get to know and trust your own self. Only then can you begin to develop positive connections with others.

When you learn how to be honest with yourself and others, you will also learn how to be true to your own self-esteem. When you feel good about yourself and are truly self-confident, you will naturally experience more positive connections with others. Your interactions with them will be positive, and this will help to build a strong foundation for positive relationships. As a result, your life will become happier and more enjoyable.

Another important thing to remember when learning how to make positive connections with others is that you must not allow yourself to be consumed by your negative emotions. Emotions, including anger and hate, are very hard to manage and control. Unfortunately, too many of these negative emotions will eventually consume you so that you cannot sustain positive connections with anyone else. As a result, you may start to isolate yourself from everyone else and shun away opportunities for positive connections. In addition, if you are continually combating negative emotions and cannot seem to let go of them, then it is highly likely that you will remain in relationships that are unfavorable to you and hinder your development of positive emotions.

One of the most effective ways to maintain positive connections with others is to focus your attention on the small things that are happening around you instead of on the larger issues. While it is important to take stock of the bigger picture in order to have a healthy self-image, focusing on the small things is essential in order to find and maintain a positive connection with others. For example, while it is important to figure out the causes of your negative emotions, it is equally important to do your best to work on the smaller things in your daily life. If you focus your attention on the things that are happening around you on a daily basis, you will find that you begin to experience a greater sense of peace and contentment. In addition, as you become increasingly aware of these small things, you will find that your connections with other people strengthen and deepen.