Three Useful Tips for Long Distance Relationship(LDR)

To maintain a long distance relationship (LDR) could be very tricky, but these 3 key tips will make it work if you can handle all of them.

Be aware of the time differences

The first and the most difficult one would be the time differences problem, but it can also be the biggest benefit of participating in a LDR. You ought to catch the time between both of you and to understand each other in a limited time. So, it forces you to spend extra energy and time to communicate with your partner, if you can make the most of it, you will be able to build a strong base and the other problem could be NOTHING as you two already dealt with the most difficult one.

Do not spend all your spare time on texting and talking, you need your own virtual space, do not dare to blame or haul him or her over the coals when they may not able to give you 24 hours as he or she also need to deal with their life. They have their work and friends! Especially in LDR, both of you need to have a common consensus on the use of the time. Tell your partner what is your schedule on the coming day and do understand when something comes suddenly. When they miss your call, stay calm and do other things that you like. Stop spending time to argue that WHY you do not answer my call, and that kind of argument. The misunderstanding comes because you take too much attention on your partners’ time.

Set up healthy communication patterns
Unlike face to face love, you may not able to talk to your partner and ask for everything. ‘Who is that girl on your Facebook? ’,’Who is calling you?’, ‘Why you don’t reply me as soon as you can?’ Rearrange your schedules and make the right time to talk, if your partner is busy, it is not a suitable time to chat.
Give both of you a suitable time every day. Like every morning my partner calls me after his breakfast, it’s already afternoon me and I have just taken my lunch. It’s a good time for us to relax. Before going to sleep, we do face-call again so that we can share special things daily and our mood both in good. These kinds of condition make you set up a healthy pattern and you can plan your daily routine more easily. Do not try to call him when he is busy, working, sleeping, chatting with his friends. Everyone needs space to live with other people but not only you.

Do not run into a negative conflict with your partner as it hurts a lot. Stay positive and appreciate your lover, tell that what makes you love him/her, tell that what makes you feel trust and good. When you see him/her, say YOU’RE SO ATTRACTIVE as these make your lover feel so good on you.

Trust means everything, just be YOURSELF
It could also be a problem like the lack of communication when you or your partner has desire on each other. I need more care, I want gifts, I want more time to talk, I don’t like you doing that…… Just don’t hide your real emotions because the real you make your relationship more real. If you are dating face to face, you can see your partner’s reaction directly but in LDR this is nothing. Therefore, trust and love is the core thing you can give your partner.
Don’t take limit to say love quotes, to send a picture that can make your partner happy. Say more ‘I love you.’, ‘I trust you.’ And support your partner when he/she is suffering bad mood. Everyone have emotional times, but be with them is the one to keep your relationship close and to support each other as the soulmate.

In the end, trust takes everything. If you can learn to trust your partner no matter what he/she did, you can make the commitment with him/her. Build a long-term relationship is the goal that you can be yourself to your partner and stay positive in both of you. First love yourself and spend more time to do what you like, take care of your own life and colour it, just like people said: If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. (Dalai Lama)