The Importance of Loneliness | It's not that bad
A brief explanation of my point of view on loneliness
I do not think that loneliness is a bad thing. It does not define a person in anyway. Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, there is still loneliness inside you. It is just a matter of noticing and understanding how it defines you and how you communicate with others.
"Are we alone in the universe?"
This thought came to me after watching the movie MEN IN BLACK. I never really gave a care about the vastness of the universe until I heard this line. The question of us being alone in the universe is like an existential question that has not been proven or answered just yet.
I know that loneliness is a difficult topic. Depressing as it may sound, I think loneliness is a good thing, great even. Why you ask? Well let me just say that I am not stranger to loneliness.
It may seem as though I may have quite a few friends, but ultimately I think I am always alone. I never really consider people as permanent friends. I have never called anyone Best Friend because I think I don't deserve that privilege of calling them that. I may be too assuming of our closeness and that is too much for me to handle.
On my own I am free. On my own I can do anything. On my own I am not afraid. On my own I find strength in me.
I believe in these words because for the last 19 years of my life I have coped with this internal loneliness. I was once branded as an isolated person by a teacher from my high school days. That word stuck to me and made me depressed for quite some time. I know it's not intended to hurt me the way it did, but it still gave a big impact on me.
Back then I would be satisfied with the company of my shadow and the things around me. I can think of so many things that mattered. Things that made sense to me. Things I can't talk about to others. I always fear of their disapproval, of their thoughts. They may find me weird. They may find me hard to talk to. They may find me a difficult person to deal with.
I was still fragile. Too innocent. Too gullible in a way that it makes me hate myself. I know that their are people who think the same way. Who think a life like this is very miserable. A life you don't dream of. But I am still satisfied with my life.
I found solace in silence. I found peace with myself and I started to understand things on my own. I observe people in a way that is different. I silently created a game for myself, trying to formulate conversations and scenarios that seemed possible for me to do. I thought logically before I talk to people for I fear of their disapproval.
That loneliness molded me into a logical person. A person that thinks before acting. A person of reason.
I found out so many things about myself. My soul searching was fruitful but not over just yet. Loneliness is not a simple form of depression. Loneliness is a stepping stone to peace and understanding yourself, at least that's what I think.
I know this doesn't make sense at all. How did loneliness become important? How does it make you understand yourself better?
You were formed in the silence of your mother's womb. You had no one to talk to, just the beating of your mother's heart is what you hear. It was clear. It was calming. It was infinitely pleasing. You know nothing of the outside world. Yet you know you are alive. It is the same with loneliness. For a thought is profound when you think in peace. Everyone is alone at some point and that is not a bad thing.
Loneliness is not the cause of depression but a simple way to breathe. I know that this thought is not unanimously accepted but this is just my point of view. Everyone needs to be alone sometime because a person's life is not made up of others but is made up of your own.
Insightful thanks. Sad, true but part and parcel of life, Peace and love. Cheers :)
This is the life, we must to go on...