The little things that make you stunned

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Why some seemingly meaningless little things can induce love in people's hearts? How did these feelings come about? Are they hidden in our genes?

No, genes have nothing to do with love. The inducement of love is actually deeply buried in our hearts. The feeling that comes out of our hearts when we see (hear, smell, feel) something is actually buried deep in our subconscious a long time ago. They come from the unfathomable well that shapes all of our personalities-our childhood experiences, or, in other words, what happened in our lives during our childhood from five to eight years old. When we are young, a phenomenon called "subconscious imprinting" occurs in our brains, which is very similar to a certain physiological phenomenon of certain species in the animal kingdom.

In the 1930s, Dr. Konrad Lorenz, a famous Austrian animal behaviorist, successfully lured a group of ducklings to have an irreparable attachment to him. At that time, as soon as he saw the little duck peck open the eggshell with its thin beak, he squatted down and walked by the eggshell as a mother duck. So, the little duck immediately crawled out of the eggshell and followed him in the laboratory. Later, although the real duck mother appeared in the laboratory, the ducklings imprinted with the subconscious still followed Lorenz in every possible way.

Researchers confirmed that this kind of imprinting phenomenon is not only seen in birds, but similar phenomena have occurred in fish, guinea pigs, sheep, sika deer, buffalo and other mammals. Are humans immune to the imprinting phenomenon? Well, unlike the ducklings who lined up behind Dr. Lorenz, we don't always follow the doctor who delivered us until we become adults. But there is still conclusive evidence that we are the victims of another kind of imprinting, which is the "early sexual impression imprinting."

The world-renowned sex scientist John Monney specially created the concept of "love map" to describe this kind of imprinting. The love map is the pain and joy imprinted in our brains, and these emotions come from the responses we received from family members, childhood partners, and other encounters in our early life. Those nicks are so deep that some can't even heal in a lifetime, just stay there quietly, waiting for the right stimulus to happen again and bloody.

Dr. Moni said: "Love maps are as widespread as faces, bodies, and brains. Each of us has a love map. Without a love map, there would be no stories about falling in love, and animals would no longer exist. Mating, life will not multiply.” 7 Your favorite person has a love map, you also have a love map, and we all have a love map. The love map is indelibly embedded in self-esteem and self-identification, stays deep in our hearts, and becomes a part of our subconscious mind. They may be positive imprints. For example, maybe your mother likes to spray a certain scent of perfume, your father looks naughty when he laughs, and your favorite teacher’s nose bulges when he laughs. Maybe when Conrad Hilton was a kid in New Mexico, a lady in a red hat was very enthusiastic about him.

The love map can also be negative. Ladies, maybe you had been sexually harassed when you were a kid, so you would never fall in love with a man with a sly smile; gentlemen, maybe your cruel and surly aunt likes to use a certain perfume, so now once a woman emits this The smell of perfume, you will immediately run away like insects smelling insecticides.

Sometimes the love map can be very complicated. Early negative experiences may make some people’s love needs weird and bizarre. Ladies, maybe your father abandoned your mother and eloped with another lady, and your life with your mother has since fallen into a miserable and lonely predicament. So now, just a casual glance at other ladies from your date will make you scared to death. Gentlemen, maybe when you were 5 years old, your beautiful babysitter often slapped you on the butt, bringing secret joy to your young genitals. Now, as an adult, you find it difficult to fall in love unless your girlfriend slaps your ass lovingly.

Those long-forgotten experiences, whether positive or negative, have been incorporated into your sexual subconscious moment by moment. If at the right time, someone touches your scratches, your blood vessels will suddenly secrete large amounts of phenethylamine. It impacts your brain and blinds your reason, so you fall in love. This is the necessary spark when love happens.

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This is just the beginning of the relationship. Now the car is just starting, but if you want to continue running, you need a battery. In the same way, when the brain recovers from the impact of phenethylamine, a trace of rationality will appear in the brain. When you get to know the person you like, you begin to secretly explore the similarities and differences between the two, and you both begin to ask yourself: "What can I get from this relationship?". We listen to our self-esteem and judge how it has grown in this relationship. The beginning of a relationship is always very delicate. In the first few dates, we often accidentally weakened the other's goodwill towards us. If we successfully pass the test at this stage, then what will happen in the bedroom will play a pivotal role in the development of the relationship.