Beauty is only when there is distance
The so-called "distance produces beauty" means that maintaining an appropriate distance is a good way to maintain relations. A woman who loves can maintain a certain "sense of distance" with her beloved man, and distance can make the tree of love evergreen.
For men, attracting is always better than urging. Show your charm more, ask for less promises, pestering him every day will only make him too stressful. Many men feel that women are really terribly annoying sometimes, making them feel overwhelmed and troubled. Although a woman’s heart always hopes that a man can come to coax her or comfort her, once a man gets bored, it is difficult to recover.
Men’s self-esteem is stronger than women’s, and they need more freedom. They are men who want to stand up to the ground and break into the world. As long as women keep the hearts of men, the world is naturally yours. Therefore, it is better for women to keep a little distance from men.
Many people think that "zero distance" is love, but in fact, it is "zero distance" that destroys the moving things in love and makes the original magnificent love become ordinary. And the reunion after a small parting or a long good-bye, the light and heat stimulated by the collision of people in love when they meet, will bring unexpected joy to life, even more intoxicating and attached than a newlywed. In family life and romantic relationships, if couples and lovers can skillfully use "distance", the relationship between each other will become stronger.
Generally, before marriage, there is a certain distance between lovers, both psychologically, in time and space, and it is this sense of distance that makes lovers look forward to meeting each other and revel in the sweet feeling of glue when they meet. However, after marriage, the sense of time and space distance between husband and wife disappeared, and the psychological distance gradually disappeared in the ordinary daily life, and the original sense of mystery also disappeared. With the passage of time, the freshness of love is gone, and each other becomes numb, so dullness and distress continue to accumulate in the marriage, while the interest of love is gradually weakened. If it is not handled well or allowed to develop, then What came naturally was a marriage crisis. In the above example, Xian's husband cannot stay together for a long time due to work, so both of them cherish the opportunity to meet very much, and the marriage becomes sweet and stable in this expectation and cherishment.
Many married couples have this kind of psychological experience-they are accustomed to getting along day and night, but when they are separated, they will think about it. The existence of time and space distance can bring a difference in feelings to the psychology and bring vitality to the relationship between husband and wife. In addition to the space-time distance, maintaining a certain psychological distance is more helpful to the relationship between the couple. Psychological distance means that the couple should leave a little "emotional space" for each other and themselves, allowing each other to have a piece of their own in the depths of their hearts. Territory, and I must have such an exclusive sky in my heart.
Sociologists once conducted a questionnaire survey on 300 couples in Shanghai with the theme "Do you want to stay together day and night, or parting for a short time", and found that 271 couples chose the latter. This actually shows that staying together every day is not the expectation of a couple. Even couples who stay together all day long will have a certain degree of invisible distance in the process of getting along, but few people realize it. In fact, if you look closely, you can find that some couples often bump into each other when they are together every day, and once they are in two places, they realize the importance of each other, and they have more contact with each other, and they don’t quarrel anymore. They seem to be back again. A wonderful time of passion.
In order to keep their love fresh, women who can love know how to create distance to improve the relationship between husband and wife. For example, at night doing what you want to do alone without interfering with each other, although they are under the same roof, they all have their own space. In addition, you can be separated from your husband for a short period of time, such as traveling alone or staying with a good sister for a few days.
A woman who knows how to love can add a sense of distance to her love at the right time. Not only can she create an independent sky in her heart, but she can also take the initiative to give each other a free space, which expands the distance between each other and at the same time. The feelings of each other make each other no longer face the troubles of siege.