Entry, "Women in the Spotlight ✨" #02 ( Ego and self respect)

What is Ego

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Ego refers to a person's sense of self-importance, self-esteem, and self-identity
Ego is pride of the highest degree. I see nobody attitude. Greet me always before I greet you like every day o.

Hmm! I am better than you all round., and please excuse me we are not mates and you don't belong to my class. Whose daughter or son are you? This is ego speaking.
EGO,a disease that has eaten deep into the fabrics of the known especially the high class, politicians, prince and princess

It is a mental state characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, pride, and a lack of empathy. ego creates a barrier that prevents us from listening, understanding, and connecting with others even when we know we are on the wrong track making us feel more superior than others even when we are not.

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Let's take for example a working class lady taking responsibility of the family because her once caring husband lost his job and cannot cater for the family needs, now wants the husband to be under her , giving unnecessary commands for the husband to carry out simply because she is the bread winner of the family. This is ego in action and can lead to serious family crises. I think the best thing for her to do is encouraging her husband and life moves on till he can get another job rather than displaying unnecessary ego.

Is ego the reason for relationship breakups?

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Yes, ego can be a significant contributor to relationship breakdowns, including those between husbands and wives like the example of the working class lady above.
Supposed her husband is a hot tempered man and reacts at the slightest provocation , won't there be fire on the mountain?
When both partners prioritize their own egos over the relationship, it leads to a lack of communication, understanding, and compromise. If care is not taken that is when the lady will go to social media to a group and seek for advice from people on what to do without telling them that it is her who caused it because of her ego.
And people who do not understand will start blameing the man.
Women please don't allow your ego to cost you your relationship o likewise men. There are many out there waiting to grap o .Let the equation always balance mbok.

Differences between ego and self-respect.

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On my own view, the difference between ego and self respect are:
Self-respect is the confidence and dignity that comes from valuing oneself , respecting yourself, knowing yourself and value your worth.
Self-respect is essential for healthy relationships and personal growth while
ego, on the other hand, is an excessive and inflated sense of self-importance that leads to arrogance and a lack of empathy. It is elevating oneself above others.

For example self-respect can say "I deserve respect and kindness in my relationship." while Ego will say"I deserve respect and kindness only on my terms, and I'm superior to my partner even I'm my relationship." Imagine that ! If the other individual losses his or her temper, that will be serious. So ego and self respect are two things that will never agree.

How do you think we can balance self-respect with humility and empathy to build stronger relationships.

We can balance self respect with humility and empathy to build stronger relationship by :

Recognising one's worth and values, being confident without exhibiting arrogance and open to growth and mutual respect especially in relationships
as it will embrace vulnerability and empathy fosters healthy communication and compromise.

When we prioritize self-respect, we cultivate a positive and healthy sense of self-worth. This allows us to make our relationships the envy of others because we listen and have open communication with one another. On the other hand, an overly dominant ego can lead to conflicts, hurt feelings, and damaged relationships.

By striking a balance between ego and self respect, we can build stronger, more meaningful relationships and foster a more compassionate and understanding community.

But all the same,a healthy ego is essential for:

Confidence and self-assurance
Personal growth and development
Setting boundaries and assertiveness
Resilience and adaptability

However, an overly inflated or fragile ego can lead to:
Arrogance and narcissism
Low self-esteem and insecurity
Defensiveness and conflict
Emotional instability and stress

Conclusion

Ego can lead to serious crises in our relationship, environment or anywhere we find ourselves if not checked.
The best thing is to have self respect and self worth and our dignity to make the world a better place to live in.
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