People Are Staring At You? Come on it’s Fine.

I remember some years back while i was still in my second year; I started noticing that a few persons stare at me a little longer after I had passed or after my eyes have met theirs, just a bit longer than usual. This made me very worried and scared because I thought something was wrong with either my dressing, the way I walked or just me in general. This development affected me so much that I began to lose confidence when I am in public and I started avoiding crowded places.

This went on until one day I decided to confide in a friend. I just asked “Jane is anything wrong with me?” She said no. Then I started narrating to her what I have been passing through and guess what, we decided to carry out an experiment. The experiment is that I’ll pass a group of people and if anyone that stares at that way, we would politely approach the person and ask “please sir, can I ask you a question?”, if he says yes then we would ask, “sir I noticed you were staring at me earlier, I would love you to tell me why please?”

First person we asked said “I wasn’t staring at you actually, I was just looking generally at the direction you were”. Second person we asked said “I was just intrigued by how tall your legs are and I wish mine were as tall as yours”. The third person (Female) said, “It’s nothing personal, I just enjoy checking guys out when I am less busy”.

Since that day, I stopped being anxious about people starting at me longer than usual because I realized that we do these things too. We check people we find attractive out especially we guys and human beings in general can’t resist comparing their body parts to others. These are normal and we do them too without realizing what others may think.

If you are reading this and you are anxious people are always staring at you longer than usual, either in public or in class, here is what you should know. We only stare at people we find attractive enough and then we allow them to see we are staring at them, just in form of a compliment. We feel this will make them have it at the back of their mind, that they are admired.

Again, people won’t stare at you if there is something wrong with you or there is something wrong with how you walk. Even if they do, they don’t allow themselves to be caught doing that because you know it will make them feel bad. For example, do you stare at a cripple and allow them notice you are staring at them? No I guess. Do you stare at a pretty lady walking down the street and allow her notice you are staring at her? Yes of course.

So please reader, if people are staring at you longer than usual, staring at you with at smile on their faces, or even pointing at you in the street, common its fine. It’s beautiful and you should have it at the back of your mind that you are admired. If you are not satisfied that it’s positive people are staring at you, then it’s time to gather up some courage and end the whole thing once and for all by asking a few persons politely, why they are staring at you… Just like did.
Thanks for Reading and Stay Happy.
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