Parental Abuse

Most people are ignorant on this topic, but there IS such a thing called parental abuse. Look it up.

When I first learned about it back in 2009, I thought they were just talking about adults abusing their senior parents, but I was wrong.

In the past 25-40 or so years, more and more children have started abusing their parents not just because society says you can't spank your child anymore (I don't believe in violence, but I do believe in consequences), but also because parents who were abused as children went out of their way to NOT hit their children. To give them whatever they wanted so they didn't grow up unloved.

And since so many of us were abused as babies and/or children, this is all we know and can relate to.

And because these children get whatever they want, many of them were raised thinking they can do whatever they want to get their way.

Divorce and Raising Children

It's also an epidemic due to divorce or mothers who decide to have babies with no father or second mother present.

This is a HUGE issue that there is a minimum of 50% of single parents out there raising their children alone.

This isn't how children are supposed to be raised.

In order to raise healthy children, we actually need a village to do it.

It's not just an archaic saying, it's actually TRUE.

I'm reading this book now that talks about why and how babies (even the fetus) either does grow up with morality, or doesn't.

Babies literally grow their brains to the point of understanding morality before the age of 6.

If the baby (even the fetus) is abused prior to that even if it's unintentional, it thwarts the development of the brain and morality.

It even goes so far as to either set them up with a healthy or unhealthy immune system.

It's proven that certain types of abuse can create certain types of health issues.

This is why if you were on the fence before, picking up the baby even BEFORE they start crying is crucial.

This is also why many adults can't handle love and affection, or appear to be just nasty people.

It's almost always because of how they were taken care of (or not) as babies & upto year 6, although I believe that even abuse after that age plays a key role in how an adult turns out in the end UNLESS they find ways to heal themselves and that requires acknowledging there is a problem and finding the right course or therapist (I don't believe in conventional psychology) to heal them.

School Prisons

I believe the abuse isn't just from the mother/parents, but also from all the EVIL CORPS who are abusing us with their poisons.

Or the state run prison school systems and how children are bullied and abused in schools on a daily basis.

They are FORCED to go to school and the atmosphere is toxic and turns once happy children into withdrawn, unhappy, abusive or suicidal children.

Bullying abuse (could even be abuse from a teacher who picks on the child) 5 days a week, 6 hours a day is very TRAUMATIC for anyone, especially children.

Other Reasons For Parent Abuse

• Also these kids see other kids in school who abuse their parents or single mothers. I'm sure dads are abused too.

Then they are influenced by this because they don't have a strong sense of self and understand what is right and wrong. This is why they are influenced by peer pressure.

Insecure kids (I was one of them) are always easily influenced by others around them. This goes for adults too. Most adults succumb to peer pressure and need to feel part of the COLLECTIVE even if it means harming someone else.

That's just proof right there that that adult was abused as a child.

It's literally an EPIDEMIC!

• Or, the child holds deep seeded anger and blame of the mother for the breakup of the family, or the fact that she doesn't have a family or not enough money or (fill in the blank.)

• Again, children who aren't raised by healthy parental role models and/or don't have friends to make up for siblings if there aren't any, often become angry at the parents and lash out.

Around the time I started learning about parental abuse in 2009, I was shocked at how many boys were leaving their mother to go live with the dad. I'm sure the numbers are up.

They totally abandon the mother which devastates her.

I'm not talking about leaving because the mother is abusive and there are plenty of mothers out there who are abusive, I'm talking if the mother isn't gravely abusive.

And NO mother is perfect and shouldn't be expected to be perfect. This is another form of BS that society expects, and then shames the mother if she's not the PERFECT robotic mother.

In today's DOGMATIC society to bring down people's sense of self worth, most mothers who care and love are often full of FEAR that they are being judged by society and that they aren't doing a good job.

And instead of HELPING her to raise her child, people just look on and JUDGE as if they are perfect.

I wasn't perfect that's for sure, but I certainly wasn't like my parents.

Making It Up

And what's amazing, is that people in society think you are making it up about parental abuse. They don't take it seriously because adults are often bigger and stronger and they've never heard of it before.

And the PARENTS are the ones who suffer because they have no support system and they are made to look like they are CRAZY.

In the meantime, everyone cow tows to the children as IF they can do no harm.

Back in 2007, two social workers (this was in Windsor, Ontario Canada) encouraged my son to leave me. I didn't have this problem in Toronto, Ontario.

I had just moved to Windsor and was having huge problems with my then 14 year old son, so I did what any smart parent would do, I sought out help.

This one social worker sat with us for ONLY 15 minutes to listen to me complain, and then PROCEEDED to tell my son (right in front of me no less), that it's never going to work out, you should leave. LOL

Then several months later, my son was in a program due to his acting out, and another social worker who was the head of the program literally helped my son keep things from me and then look into welfare so he could leave me.

And here I was oblivious to all of this desperately trying to find ways to heal us and go back to our once loving relationship.

In Canada they are very very STUPID.

They consider children who are 16 to be adults.

They can literally stop parents from seeing their school records, psych tests, etc. AND they can just take off and you as a parent can't do anything about it since they are now an ADULT.

How many 16 year olds do YOU know who are mentally and physically able to now go out on their own and take FULL care of themselves?

Sure there's some, but they are a small percentage.

The whole system is FUCKED!!!

It goes BEYOND the corruption we know of, this corruption tears families APART.

Instead of having parenting courses (that work of course) and courses for children so they can learn how to get along with their parents, their answer to EVERYTHING is BREAK families APART.

Back to Parental Abuse

I read stories of 10 year olds abusing their mother.

And just to be clear here, there are different types of abuse, not just physical.

• Verbal abuse which is VERY damaging to ALL humans.

I get sooo pissed off when society ONLY cares about physical abuse and NEVER addresses emotional abuse.

I'm talking about adults who emotionally abuse adults too.

Since society has trained people to stifle their feelings even though this is THE most unhealthy thing to do, they won't even acknowledge that emotional abuse is often more dangerous than physical.

It's 2018 and they still barely talk about it if at all.

• Even financial where the child steals non stop from the parent, guilts and manipulates or lies to constantly get money, doesn't think they need to contribute anything to the household expenses if they have a job and the family is poor, or they don't even take responsible for any chores in the house, etc.

How Paerents Parent

This is why I do NOT believe that children should come first. We as adults need to take care of ourselves first because if we DON'T, then our children (not just us) suffer.

Too many parents act as slaves (I was also somewhat guilty of this) for their children.

Or there's the flip side where the parents don't care at all.

There needs to be a healthy balance which is WHY parents need time off from their children.

18+ years of being a SLAVE to children is NUTS!!!

When we treat them like Kings or Queens 24/7, It's no wonder that's one reason they don't respect us. Then they go out into the real world and can't handle it when they aren't doted upon 24/7.

I know it's hard not to try and give them everything if you yourself were abused as a child, but you need to learn how to rewire the brain due to the trauma you experienced as a child so you can love and respect yourself.

This program may help you.

I also don't believe that parents should run after their children and bow down to them if they get up and leave after the parent was abused.

I know it's REALLY hard because it's a mother's (and father's) instinct to run after and protect a child even if it's an adult, but times have changed.

Just like any counselor would tell you to leave the abusive husband, it's no difference with a child.

Even children ignoring their parents is a form of abuse.

It's saying I don't SEE or acknowledge your existence. It's called passive aggression.

This is of course assuming you raised your child to respect and love family, friends, (even other people you just meet) etc.

That love and respect of others (unless they are being abused) is the most important aspect of live.

But again, we FIRST need to learn how to love and respect ourselves and minimum 80% of the population doesn't.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on several of these topics.

Did you even know there was such a thing as parental abuse?

Thank you for listening...