SEC-S16/W2 - "Childhood trauma and incidents: how do they affect our children's life? "

Raising children is a delicate responsibility. Parents have the obligation to train, observe, teach and protect their children.

Children are very innocent and can easily be undone by deceitful adults. Hence the need for guidance and protection.

This week's engagement contest by @hindwhale community is going to take us through how childhood trauma and incidents affects children. The topic Childhood trauma and incidents: how do they affect our children's life?.

What are the problems faced by children, & which are all childhood traumas?

Children face many problems because of their inexperienced and Innocent nature. They easily become victims of abuse in so many ways and from different quarters.

Some of the common problems which cause trauma to children are

° Domestic violence

Any act of violence practiced at home are sometimes indefinitely inprinted in the memory of a child. Whether the child is the victim of the abuse or just a witness no it. At any point the child remembers the incident, it sends shocking waves to his brain.

° Neglect

This is another form of abuse that affects a child development. It affects the way a child reasons, acts and even talk. To such ones, love and kindness does not exist.

° Emotional Abuse.

When children are not taken cared of or emotionally attended to, it causes a trauma too which is evident in their behavioral attitude.

° Sexual Abuse

Sexually abusing children is a very traumatic act. Even when adults are abused or raped, it sticks to the brain and affect their perception of sex which should be enjoyed between husband and wife. In most instances, even when the victim is married, that aspect of the relationship is always a problem. The trauma takes long to vanish.

How to protect children from social bullying?

We need to understand that a bully always looks out for that person or victim that acts as a loner. Once it is noticed that a person is weak and cries a lot when attacked, the bully will increase his act.

We can help them by teaching them how to cope and protect themselves. The points below can help out.

Be Assertive

There is always the temptation to fight back when provoked. That will only increase the problem.

Being assertive can be very useful. The individual should tell the bully to stop the act and walk away. This will eventually reduce the possibility of being bullied in the future.

Reason with the bully

Trying reasoning with the bully and find out if there is something you have done wrong to him that gave rise to such resentment. This will help him to know that you are not helpless so to speak.
This should be done at a place that is visible to all.

Be conversational.

Relating and conversing with others both in and outside the class will inform the bully that you are not a loner which usually attracts the bully.

The child should be taught to be friendly to teachers in the school. This will help get their attention and measure of protection too.

Avoid Deserted places

Avoid being alone at deserted place and areas not open to public eye. If possible, avoid routes they take to avoid trouble and follow another one.

Be self confident

We should teach our child to be self confident. Encourage our wards to improve on showing a relaxed attitude.

How to educate our children about good touch and bad touch

Parents have a major role in this. They have the responsibility to teach these to their children before anybody or social platform can.

Right from infancy, children needs to be taught at home all their body parts in real terms without forming a special name for some parts of the body.

They should be taught the functions of these body parts, which part is for public eye, and the ones that are private. They need to be taught that their private parts should not be touched by anyone, not even their teachers, best friends and their role models..

They also need to be taught that certain intimate touch is only reserved for their husbands and wives and as such should not engage in that kind of playing with any who is not their marriage mate.

What do we have to sacrifice to raise a good child?

Training a child is a great responsibility. We do not want to fail in the obligation given to us by the Almighty to bring them up in a good way.

To do this, it requires some sacrifices from our parts as parents.

One of the major sacrifices is our time. We need time to teach them, train them and observe how they are following up with the training being given to them.

While acknowledging that providing for their material needs is very essential, but to bring them up as a sound adult, we need to spend time with them. Make them our friends. Give them the opportunity to express themselves to us. This will help them to tell us exactly what they feel and let us into the deepest part of their lives.

	my kid is my friend
	with my kid

Conclusion

Raising children is a huge task. Thus parents needs to bring out time to effectively carryout this responsibility.

Doing so will help protect our wards from predators out there and help them to grow into responsible mature adults.

I will like @bossj23 @yankar @patjewell @ruthjoe and @uzma4882 to take part. here