My thoughts go out to you. I'm not going to run through Little Man's forward and backward steps, but there is a lot of empathy there! It sounds like you have an excellent support network set up, but in the end it comes back to you and you're doing a wonderful job! I have no amazing suggestions, but as i get NDIS started i will request funding hours for ABA to attend the kinder and work in there. I don't know if you are doing that as well, but as the funding takes over it's worth a go for ABA or OT funding for attending the school during the day. NDIS funds all ages so should include school...