Love at the first sight.....

Not just in the soap operas or films just love first happened, in the real world even the first love can also happen. In fact there is also because love at first sight then can bring them up to marriage. But what exactly is this first love? Is it true that love at first sight can be lasting?

Love first sight is often an attraction and is believed to have its own power. But love at first sight does not have a strong foundation because it is only a category of Lust Love or infatuation. The relationship is driven by an outward attraction and has a strong mood by sexual arousal. Meanwhile, emotional intimacy and commitment do not exist or have not existed at that time

That commitment is born of a decision-making process to consciously and deliberately decide that it is willing to maintain a relationship to be lasting or long-term. While the First Love View does not go through a conscious and deliberate decision-making process. Love The First View is spontaneous and reflexive, with no thought at all, no rationality at all. In other words, the First Love View does have absolutely no commitment component.

First Love View generally shaped physical attraction. Interested in his face: beautiful, sweet, handsome, ethnic-faced, or on the elements of the shape and color of the eyeball, the shape of the nose, lips, forehead, chin, mustache, sideburns, hairstyle. Interested in the shape of his body or stature: skinny, tall, slim, fat, solid, athletic or large and so on.

Love The First View is very self-centered. The good things and the fun for ourselves, the things that satisfy our dreams and desires are solely the basis of First Love. Including things that make life easier for us. In a more complete sense, indeed the Love of the First View is not the real love, but the lust, the impulse to satisfy oneself which in fact does not stand on the real fact of the people we consider interesting but based on the picture of a beautiful, all-interesting, all-satisfied ourselves itself and that means actual fantasy and not reality. Therefore, Love of the First View is Love to Love itself, not Love to the person of the person we consider attractive. And the real love requires know each other and give each other, there are elements where we sacrifice, tolerate.

While the subject or focus of Love of the First View, not others because we really do not know it, who became the subject and the center of our attention is a feeling of passion, sensation, passion, our fantasies about Love. So no wonder, when a person is in a relationship solely based on Love of the First View, it leads to disappointment and breakup, with the excuse that there is no match, "we already have no feelings of love". It could be in another form, when the relationship has begun to feel no exciting anymore, do not make 'greng', suddenly he had a relationship with other types of opponents. Easy to turn and easy to branch off, because what he loves is love, not someone.

While the subject or focus of Love of the First View, not others because we really do not know it, who became the subject and the center of our attention is a feeling of passion, sensation, passion, our fantasies about Love. So no wonder, when a person is in a relationship solely based on Love of the First View, it leads to disappointment and breakup, with the excuse that there is no match, "we already have no feelings of love". It could be in another form, when the relationship has begun to feel no exciting anymore, do not make 'greng', suddenly he had a relationship with other types of opponents. Easy to turn and easy to branch off, because what he loves is love, not someone.

The conclusion:
First, we can say to myself, I am not in love with someone, but I am interested, fascinated and it departs from my fantasies about him, not reality.
Second, for those who are already married more than couples, certainly should not follow up the interest because it can lead to infidelity, at least in our minds. Meanwhile, for those who are unmarried or unmarried, if the person to whom we are interested is indeed single, we can consider the extent to which we need to explore to know and recognize, so that our recognition is grounded and not trapped in our fantasies, or we can choose to ignore it because for us he may be less affordable or less in accordance with the actual criteria of our future spouse.

drawing a lesson there will be the threat of chaos and all bad deeds if we are only concerned with self-interest, not considering people, or making no sacrifices for others.

Best regards steemians............