Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 51: I Learnt to Say NO.

Introduction

Hey lovely family good morning, how is everyone doing, hope you all had a wonderful night, Is your best friend Vivian mogar ugana, i missed everyone and I know you guys missed me too but am here now.

Do you always find it hard to say No to people's request?

No i don't, but sometimes depends on who is involved and also what the person is requesting for.

Mention reasons why people's find it difficult to say No?

1. Fear of disappointing or letting others down
2. Desire to be liked, accepted, or popular
3. Fear of conflict or confrontation
4. Difficulty setting boundaries or prioritizing own needs
5. Fear of missing out (FOMO) or feeling left out
6. Lack of assertiveness or communication skills
7. Emotional attachment or empathy for the person making the request
8. Fear of being seen as rude, unhelpful, or uncooperative
9. Habit of people-pleasing or overcommitting
10. Difficulty saying no without feeling guilty
11. Fear of damaging relationships or reputation
12. Uncertainty about how to say no without offending others
13. Feeling overwhelmed or pressured by the request
14. Lack of self-confidence or self-worth

What was the experience that taught you to say No?

1. Toxic friendship: Being taken advantage of by a "friend" who consistently makes unreasonable requests, teaching the importance of settings boundaries.

What is your advice for those who still struggle to give No as an answer:

1. Practice saying no: Start small, like declining a second helping of food or saying no to a minor request.
2. Identify your boundaries: Clarify what you're comfortable with and what you're not.
3. Use assertive language: Say "I appreciate the request, but I'll have to say no" or "I'm not comfortable with that."
4. Offer alternatives: If possible, suggest another solution or offer help in a different way.
5. Don't over explain: A simple "no" or "I'm not able to" is enough; avoid justifying or apologizing excessively.
6. Remember, "no" is a complete sentence: You don't owe anyone an explanation.
7. Prioritize self-care: Remember that saying no to others means saying yes to yourself.
8. Set clear expectations: Communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly to others.
9. Be firm but polite: Say no with kindness and respect, but maintain your boundary.
10. Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and celebrate each time you successfully say no!

Conclusion:

Remember, saying no is a skill that takes time and practice to develop. Be patient and kind to yourself as you work. thank you