Stop Bullying Body Shaming

Hi Italian friends.

Today I will talk about bullying and body shaming. So body shaming or bullying is only the trigger, but the symptoms of mental disorders can vary from person to person. Well, that often leads to anxiety or depression. So, the handler of course, for teenagers or anyone who experiences body shaming, he needs to show the attitude that I don't like being treated like that.

Teenagers need to learn to communicate assertively, not passively and aggressively. Fighting, fisticuffs like that. But assertive.

"Hey, I don't like you talking about my physique like that."

Assertive, open. Show that you don't like it, but use good communication methods. So, this is what teenagers and anyone who experiences bullying or body shaming needs to learn. And often the person being bullied remains silent. Don't tell his parents, or his teachers, or adults who have a major role in that area or place. The most important thing is actually from the family first, if we were talking about parents. How parents raise a child, teenager with self-confidence. So give him appreciation praise for the positive things about him. Let teenagers learn to accept failure, accept disappointment, and learn from their failures. So that he believes this.

So, for society in general, we are certainly making people more wearable, with themes like this, yes, body shaming, bullying, not tolerating things that are bullying, or bullying like that. So we make people more aware, "ehh, that joke isn't funny, that's body shaming, that's bullying, you know." That's it.

Yes, maybe people think it's a joke, but now because people wear more, they are more careful. It turns out that his jokes can hurt other people and can cause mental disorders.

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Changing perceptions, or perhaps understanding in dealing with disturbances in friendship, for example teasing. He actually does this at home, so that he can face the outside world more safely, in other words, or what?

The house is the foundation, when a child has a good foundation from his family, it means he is strong enough to face pressure, face ridicule, for example. When there is bullying outside, maybe he won't immediately breakdown. But once the foundation is not strong, at home he is not raised with good love, with enough attention, praise and appreciation, he becomes fragile, lacks self-confidence and outside will tend to be vulnerable to bullying or body shaming and other social pressures.

So it is indeed to strengthen that, both from the family, then from the environment. In the environment, for example a school, create an anti-bullying policy, zero tolerance for bullies. So that people who want to bully don't have the opportunity to bully. But what you need to know is that actually people who bully or bully usually also have mental health issues. Someone asked me something like this, "I'm insecure because my body shape is not ideal, even the people closest to me often joke by comparing my body shape with the ideal body shape of other people. How do I make peace with myself?"

OK, actually like this, the ideal body condition is actually who is in shape, society. Society defines the ideal body as slender, tall, white, with a sharp nose and so on. Actually there is no definition of ideal. Therefore, change your mindset first. Change the mindset that according to who the ideal is. If according to society it's ideal, but we have unique bodies, which are different, actually that's okay.

So change your mindset first, then make peace with yourself, namely trying to explore your potential, your strengths. Don't focus on things that are considered shortcomings. Remember, it's considered yes. It's not a real deficiency, because perhaps there is a certain type of idealism that exists in society. Actually, that is not a definite definition. So try to be at peace with yourself, accept your strengths and weaknesses. And say firmly if someone is joking around you about your body shape. Express it firmly and clearly.

Greetings always compact.

By @midiagam