Be Grateful, Then Life Will Be Happy

"It's not happiness that makes us grateful, but being grateful will make our lives happy.

Yes, indeed, when talking about happiness, it is created or achieved, right? Or then there is even this story about humans as social creatures, we meet other people, we can feel happy with that person, whether in the form of a work relationship, friendship or husband, wife relationship, or dating relationship for example. But then we often have ""I'm not happy with him."

So is it actually the person who makes us happy, or is it ourselves who makes us try to be happy with him?

Actually, because it's a relationship, then there is a reciprocal relationship. Because happiness cannot be only one person, if it is personal. It means that we must be happy no matter what if he/she disturbs us, becomes unhappy, or we have made him/her happy, but if he/she does not give us a good relationship, the reciprocity is not true happiness, then there must be both.

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For example, in a family, for example, the relationship between brother, sister, or husband, wife, or whatever, we don't have to have a way in ourselves, right? Well, that's why in a husband and wife, there is something called wa'asiru bil ma'ruf, which means mutual understanding. Mutual understanding is certainly if the husband can trust, then he must be trusted.

I will give a very simple example. There is a person who is actually not happy with her mother-in-law. So she goes to a shaman, she asks the shaman, this woman says to the shaman,

"What if my mother-in-law is poisoned."

This is a true story in China.

But she asked for the poisoning to be done slowly, because if it was done immediately it would be suspicious, it would be found out.

She was given medicine for about half a year, six months, this could be gradual if she died. Finally she was given poison, so that it would not be found out, she pretended to be very good to her mother-in-law. Her cunning is extraordinary.

Finally what? After six months, instead of showing any signs of death or illness, her mother-in-law got healthier. And her daughter-in-law, who was previously fierce, got better. So after six months, she went to a shaman to ask for the poison to be removed. She came to her senses and told the shaman that her mother-in-law was very kind. During the six months that I gave her poison, she was much better than before. So she begged the shaman to remove the poison. Then finally the doctor said, "I didn't give her poison, but I gave her supplementary medicine so that she would be healthier, healthier."

It turns out that someone is not good because of our attitude, because we do not give one hundred percent. When he improves himself in everything, he pretends, even though it is so that he dies quickly and gets an inheritance, it turns out that it is the other way around. So sometimes actions and reactions are reciprocal. Now I ask, please answer,

"How are you?"

It turns out that actions and reactions are different, maybe that little brother is not good with us because we are not good with him.

If we are already good, but it turns out, sometimes humans hope. Let's say like this,

"My little brother and I don't get along."

For example. Then try to understand,

"Ahh, I understand my little brother, oh like this, so I try to be more patient, because I'm the oldest child."

For example.

But my little brother doesn't understand. After a while he'll get annoyed, because we've tried, like that.

Well, the question arises,

"Isn't it necessary to have hope, the important thing is that we behave well, the problem is whether we're happy or not, how about later, or what?"

Actually there are two, one is we have to stay positive. Always be good, we don't stop that goodness, I mean there's no ulterior motive for him to be as good as we hope.

The second one is the importance of religion. Religion makes people have expectations. There is a name for it, tafa'ul, tafa'ul is hope in the afterlife.

"I was indeed made like this so that I can get a lot of rewards."

If they were immediately kind to me, my kindness would have stopped. When you are given tuba water, then you give tuba water, it means you also lose that kindness.

Then someone is already kind, then they are badmouthed, then we do bad things to them, both are bad.

Do you understand what I mean?

Greetings always compact.

By @midiagam