Rules of life .

Andrei Kurpatov is a famous Russian psychotherapist who lives in St. Petersburg. Petersburg, and whose life tips have helped, over time, hundreds, maybe thousands of patients who have crossed the threshold. His teachings should be the foremost book of any of us, for that is the only way we can discover true happiness. Here's what they teach us!

Never put on the shoulders of others the responsibility for what is happening in your life. The temptation is great, but you have to make the inner judgment: "I am the author of my mistakes and of my successes." You will gain power to change things.

Drop the illusion that it is in your power to change people. Only circumstances change people, the rest are mistakes of perception. Do not judge the others according to your expectations and then, at some point, you will feel good in their company.

Today's people seem to have an infinite number of people to choose the ideal and flawless one. The illusion of unlimited choice is a terrible deception. Maybe not every human, but at least every second hides what we really need. It's naive to wait for the "happy event" because we get old.

It's a sad situation, but we have nothing to do: people around us need us to be strong. Nobody wants weak, sure, depressed, madmen. If we see the others have other expectations, we might be wrong. Contend with the idea that this rule always works. Take a little breath, pull deep air into your chest and you will see that it is not a cause of sorrow.

Each of us desires to retire and have such a pension to relieve him of future financial worries, and the sooner - the better. This is a chimera, but not because there is no worry-free pension, but because man needs to work. If you become aware of this, daily work will start to bring you joy.

We are children to understand what true love is, to live on our own skin and even to become true love.

Learn to diminish the problems, not exaggerate them. Even our subconscious is better off hearing that the problem is small than gigantic. And instead of thinking that "My life does not make sense", it's better to understand that your problems really do not make sense. If we are so able to lose our own lives so easily, why would not we do this against the problems we are struggling with?

Never waste your time and effort with those who do not care about you and especially those who do not love you. In this world there is a huge crowd of people with whom life can be a real joy. Be good and open to all, you will not lose anything.