The other side of loneliness

It is common that loneliness is identified as negative and harmful. Usually this is associated with sadness and despair. However , loneliness is a positive and necessary face that often goes unnoticed , hidden by the shadow of the fateful negative concept of loneliness.

The Italian writer Carlos Dossi said : " Why , in general, it shuns loneliness ? Because there are few who find company in themselves . " And it is that loneliness is undoubtedly the best way to approach ourselves. Only when we are alone with the only company of our thoughts, we are able to know ourselves , to learn to appreciate our own company.

When we are with other people , most often it is to focus our attention in his presence, in the conversations that we engage with them. Thus , we overlook many things that we do not go unnoticed when we are alone, alone, we look around us , we look at details such as landscapes , houses, other people with whom we met and so on .

Learn to live with oneself, to enjoy the only company of me , it is very important to know ourself and it will give us strength , self-esteem and teach us to respect ourselves.

Charles Baudelaire said: "Whoever does not know populate his solitude , does not know to be between a busy crowd." And, if we can not dominate loneliness, she will dominate us. It is wise , therefore, to spend time alone, know ourselves and separate ourselves from the hubbub which is the constant companionship . Thus , we will strengthen as individuals and grow as person.

Creativity is something that takes place mainly in solitude. A musician who can not spend three hours or three days alone with himself will never be able to find in his mind the notes he wants to capture in a pentagram and will never be able to compose , since the creative process develops almost always in company of no one. The German novelist and poet Goethe said about loneliness : "Talent is cultivated in solitude ; the character is formed in the stormy waves of the world. "

As we can see , there are many intellectuals who mentioned the positive side of loneliness and the advantages of the individual. Obviously , the negative connotations of loneliness can become very serious and damaging , this can become very dangerous . However , it is also important to mention the advantages of being alone from time to time and tolerate such loneliness.

Finally, another appointment. This time the Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho , who also summarizes what here is said about loneliness :

" A warrior of light uses loneliness, but it´s not used for it."