BEING POSITIVE: NOTE TO SELF #3

Often you think that you are useless, a dumbass person for being insensitive. For hurting other people especially your loved ones and for being who you are. But honestly, I think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity.

Instead of saying 'I’m lazy,' saying 'I’ve made a habit of not doing work unless it’s absolutely necessary.' Instead of saying 'I’m a bad friend,' saying 'I haven’t communicated as much as I should with the people I care about.'

By being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you really are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and correct it and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didn’t happen or wallowing in blaming yourself.