STOP BEING STRONG. IT IS OKAY TO CRY.

Hi everyone,

It's been a while. Let's just say, "I have been busy".

It has not been easy this past week . God has been faithful.

Reminder: I'm about to start a community. A consistency community. Where you can meet like minds, share interests and ideas, and receive the pressure and will to be consistent in whatever you're doing, turning it to a habit. Coming soon...

Tip of the day: A wise man once said, "Don't be too strong. Stop acting strong".

There was a time I used to wonder if 'experts' ever make mistake.

Well that is what people call them.

The 'experts' see that a lot of people believe in them and see them as flawless, thereby going through tooth and nail to live up to that standard.

That pattern goes on from generation to generation. People getting scared to express their wants.

And when a particular expert makes a mistake, or admit to feeling the opposite of what he or she preaches, the society turns into an uproar.

An abomination is committed!

For the fact you're known for a particular thing, doesn't mean you have to have a million and one answer for each question. It's okay to admit you don't know all. And it is okay to admit that what you are preaching against is affecting you.

I've been battling with inferiority complex for a while now.

I'm brave. Of course I am.

But a few times, my heart gets way too heavy. It might last for a week or two if not taken care of. And if I let it grow in me, I turn from being sad to depressed. Then everything around me seems disgusting or irritating.

I have been having doubts about creating the community. Questions like "What if people don't turn up?", "How do I start the group?", "It's been very long I led people. What if I fumble?", and other related questions haunt my mind.

Of recent, I have been having the dire need to go AWOL for like a week or more. Thank God for good friends who helped in keeping me sane.

Imagine a creator of a consistency community is not consistent.

And then I had a long talk with a new friend of mine, and I must say it was a relief.

At first, I was feeling somehow when he opted to talk to me. And I'm like, "Na me dey give this guy advice o". But then, who has pride helped?

It is perfectly okay to take a break when you feel you need it. You are a human being, not a robot. Machines are known not to have feelings.

For example, you are a mental health coach, and you have anxiety. You constantly feel scared about something or have a certain scary reaction to some events. Let me tell you. It's perfectly normal.

Or you are a relationship/marriage coach, and you came from a broken home. It is also normal.

People expect that if you say you are a pro on something, especially topics relating to life, you MUST not have an issue in it. You must be PERFECT. That's total bullshit!

Human beings make mistakes. It is part of us. You can't evade it.

The only thing I'd say is, turn your experience into a teaching. Impact people so that those about to enter those stages you once faced, won't repeat the same mistake ever again. And that's how you build a better society.

So, calm down. Take a chill. Relax. This life is short. Let every second spent be worth it.