Three Methods on How to Face Your Own Struggles

For me, there is no greater gift, on of life's greatest lessons, than that of facing my own personal struggles. I am not here to judge or give judgment to any of my own struggles. That is not who I am, even though I believe it is my responsibility to the black man, women and children who I have suffered or know who have or do not suffer from economic, social and other kinds of struggles.


I am here to say that no one has the right to judge your struggles or your experiences. We are all individuals. We all come with our own set of challenges and we all deserve love, respect and understanding. No one deserves a handout, especially when he or she could so easily help themselves by earning a little more white family money and perhaps giving back to the less fortunate amongst us.

The question that I pose is a simple one, yet a pertinent one: Why are we teaching our youth that hard work equals success and a good family life while that does not hold true in many cases? Why are we teaching our youth that forgiveness is a virtue and that when we are down, we should cry? Why do we teach our youth to hide their emotions behind a mask of anger, frustration, sorrow and depression? These are the very struggles that face us, and many times, our youth go through these same struggles without being fully aware of them, because they are shrouded in white privilege.

As a youth of color, I often wondered why I was given this gift of being considered "special" as opposed to all of the other kids in school. I wondered why I had the privilege of being taught the belief that a person born into poverty might mean less than all the others who were born in better circumstances. What difference could there possibly be between myself and someone else? It seemed like the answer to such questions must lie in something more fundamental than what my birth brought to me. What difference would there be if I never came to understand that I was born into white privilege?

To be honest, I don't think that we should be preparing our youth for the difficult things that they will have to deal with. However, I do believe that we can equip our children with the skills necessary to cope with the situations that they will have to face. Yes, I think that preparing them for difficult things should be one of the tasks that we lay on them, but not necessarily the only task. There is no reason why we cannot prepare them for love, joy and peace.

One of the most powerful things that we can do for our children is to love them unconditionally. Even when we love someone back, we have to sometimes put a little extra effort in to make it clear that we love them. This is because unconditional love is actually the greatest form of love, and when we express it to another human being, it becomes instantly visible. It is love that teaches you that there is nothing to be afraid of or regretting about, and that everything is peaceful and wonderful. Unconditional love is the opposite of selfishness, and it teaches you that you should be able to share your happiness and joy even with those who you don't feel like expressing it to.

Another thing that we can do for our children is to help them to face their own struggles and their fears. For example, if my daughter always feels like crying, I would try to help her overcome that by buying her some new clothes or providing her with the company of a friendly stuffed animal. By helping her overcome her own struggles, she will be able to be more confident when facing other people's struggles and fears. By helping her overcome these, she will be able to have a more secure place in the world. The act of being around someone who is secure enough in his own ability to be around others does wonders for a child's self-esteem and confidence.


Finally, the last thing that you can do for your kids to improve their self-confidence is to encourage them to face their own struggles. This can be done by simply telling them that they can do anything that they put their mind to if they really want to. If you have any hesitation to do this because you feel that it will make your child timid or will scare him off, you can simply show them that you agree with them in spirit but that it is up to them how they approach it. This will help to give them the confidence that they need in order to face anything that comes their way.