How to develop flexible skills in a child

The circles and sections develop, but you should not rely only on additional education. Soft skills are formed from birth, so it is better to set a personal example for your child and take it seriously.

Personal example. The child adopts patterns of behavior, imitating adults. Parents set communication patterns if they openly communicate with people, express feelings, ask for help, and solve problems. For example, if you want your child to say hello, say hello yourself.

Source

Attitude. A child is not a small adult who will begin to live after the age of 18, but a full-fledged person. Take your child seriously and ask for their opinion. If you give a choice, it must be real. For example, the proposal to choose a cup for milk is imaginary, because the child will still have to drink milk. Better ask what he wants to drink: tea, water, milk or juice.

The immediate environment. Relatives, friends and acquaintances are the inner circle of the child. They set patterns for all forms of communication that develop flexible skills. If a child comes to a development group with an atmosphere of mutual respect and an opportunity for self-expression, soft skills will develop. At the same time, it is not worth putting a shy child into a development group and expecting him to become a leader in it. It is better to give your child a responsible task with the right to make mistakes. If there is a bakery on the ground floor of the house, assign a child to be in charge of the bread in the house. This is a real-life challenge: take the money, go to the store, choose the bread and bring it home.

But how to see that a child is having difficulties and help them cope with them in time. To see in time the difficulties with the development of soft skills in a child, look at his behavior. For example, if a child comes to a group of children, but cannot find a friend to play for 5-10 minutes, then he has difficulties. The child may not say hello, hide or stand on the sidelines for a long time and watch other children play.

Talk to kindergarten teachers, school teachers, or parents of classmates. If it is difficult for adults to work with a child: he refuses everything, bully children, “pulls the blanket over himself,” and this is not a one-time occurrence, then there are difficulties.

Soft skills develop gradually throughout life. Some skills shape others. For example, communication develops emotional intelligence and the ability to manage people. There is no specific age for a child to grow up and change from one set of flexible skills to others.

In order for the child to understand his needs and to be able to satisfy them, the mother must respond correctly to the child's emotions and requests in childhood and give the correct feedback in a timely manner. Then, if the child breaks the toy and cries, he will understand that he is crying because of the broken toy, and not because of the bad mother. You need to believe in your child, love him and give him the opportunity to live, and not prepare for life in the future.

Like adults, children have the most important skills - communication, while you need to pay attention to leadership and work in a group.

Communication skills. The child must learn to communicate: introduce himself, get acquainted, agree to play together. If necessary, ask for help from adults or peers, offer to provide it yourself. Explain exactly what they need and why. By developing communication skills, the child learns to accept different points of view and argue for his own.

Source

Leadership skills. Leadership is self-confidence and self-confidence. The child learns to take responsibility for the decisions made and the people around. If no one wants to play, he himself will offer to start. A kid can feel invisible and fake if he constantly waits for someone to organize the game for him or solve all the problems. Children should feel like full-fledged people who know how to achieve their goal and make the right decisions for this.

Group work. The ability to work and be in a group with other children helps to achieve big goals, compete and negotiate, develops leadership and communication. Working in a group, the child is not afraid to accept the rules of the game, maintain his role and enjoy it.

---