Breaking up with loneliness 💔

There's a part in every person, the form identity of who you are only on the level of form. It tends to lean toward the male or female and therefore you tend to be drawn to the male or female. Now you are not "complete" because you are only half on the level of form, the physical form or just underneath that, the psychological and emotional form.

There is a natural longing for the other polarity, the completeness of a human being. You can feel it within you. Let me be clear, sex is only a part of this. It goes beyond a sexual longing. There is more to it than that. There's also an emotional longing for the other. They go together and there's that "pull" that you can feel on the level of form. When that is not satisfied, it will lead to unhappiness particularly if you have not transcended at all with your identification with form.
If you are still totally identified with you as this physical form and psychological form, the transcendent dimension has not come into your life at all. Then yet again you will become dissatisfied.

There are many cultures in the world today that believe you have to find a partner. Other cultures believe if you aren't married with children at a certain age, you have failed in some sort of way whether they express it to you or not. You in their eyes have not fulfilled your form identity. The essence is to be able to transcend who you are on the level of form. Whether or not you find a partner that meets that longing, going from partner to partner or you find that person you will be with for the rest of your life, that is secondary really.

Even if you have a partner, if you have not gone deeper and encountered the transcendence dimension to who you are beyond the form identified of you as the male or female or whatever the nationality, your particular social status in society, whatever makes up your form in addition to gender-If you have not gone beyond that then even the relationships, yes you might have found a partner, but you won't be satisfied in the relationship with the absence of the transcendent dimension-the spiritual dimension. You may come to some sort of compromise-living together and somehow managing to stay together, but you actually have a longing to get out. The people who are outside have a longing to get into a relationship or marriage and those who are in are longing to go get out.

It is quite possible to notice the absence of a partner, very possible to notice a certain sense of lack on the level of form and yet have a lot of spaciousness around that sense of lack. Yes you can feel that sense of longing, but it does not consume you. The longing has not taken possession of you and making you into an unhappy person, a totally unfulfilled bitter person. The longing is there, but the longing that arises from a particular form of you exists within a spaciousness because that is the transcendent dimension.

Who you are is not the unfulfilled longing. Who you are is the presence of the stillness around it. That is the shift. The longing may persist, but you can live with it. However, if you are no longer trapped in the longing, it is quite possible a change will come into your life. In particular, if the intense neediness goes "I need somebody", then every person you meet can feel that intense neediness too. Of course you can take action towards meeting somebody. Honestly, you may not meet the most conscious people at a club where you can't hear them.

Let go of the neediness or it's less likely to work out for you. If you have that sense if inner spaciousness around the longing, then the way in which you approach others changes without that absolute pull. My suggestion is see if you can on the outer level see how and where you could meet people. Explore! Perhaps you will find somebody there to realize the transcendence does not exclude the possibility of taking action on the outer level. Of course that is always secondary, but why not? Think of it as "conscious dating" although carefully use that phase so you don't dilute its worth.

Find that place where the polarities are not there anymore. The being, think "I am-ness", the form and go there as much you can. It may not totally free you from longing, but will no longer become something too overwhelming. Then go take action!

💝Have a positive evening you beautiful beings! You all amaze me 💝

Love always,
Kristan 💖