The Four Hotplates of Life

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A few years ago, I came across a very interesting theory that presents the driving forces in our lives as a four-burner stove.

The concept of the four hotplates is quite simple and everyone can easily imagine it.

The main driving forces in our lives can be divided into four hotplates, fireplaces, flames, gas burners - as you wish.

I find it most fun to imagine them as a ceramic hob and four hotplates - what I see every day in my kitchen.

So, imagine that each stove is one of the four most important driving forces in our lives:

The first stove - this is the family, our family life.

The second hob is the relationship with our friends.

The third hot plate is our health.

The fourth - this is our career, work, beloved or unloving.

It turns out that there is a very simple axiom: in order to be realized in life, one has to quench one of the hotplates.

In order to be really successful in what he does, it is necessary to exclude two of the hotplates. Otherwise, our main resources will not be enough: time and energy.

Of course, we can play the usual human games, once again try to trick the rules of life. We can cunningly try to unite the first and second hotplates (family and friends) or health and work (the third and fourth), but if we are honest with ourselves, then we will have to admit that "this can not be done". We can try to be successful in all four spheres.

Can we really? In fact, there is no way.

Sooner or later we begin to realize that no matter how much we try to bypass the Theory of the Four Hobs, we will face again and again face to face with the basic truth of life - the art of making deals and negotiating, accepting conditions and rejecting others.

If you want a career and a stable family, your friends will soon abandon you, your health - too. If you want to be healthy and be successful parents, you will have to give up your professional ambitions and from your evening parties with friends.

Of course, there are two other options to find an acceptable solution:

• Outsourcing
• seasonal job

We often delegate the performance of other people's minor activities. We buy ready meals so we do not cook. We can hire collaborators to unload some of the tasks. We can hire people (or ask our parents) to help us raise our children.

We can get to know our partner and reorganize our week so that there is one day or night for friends, family, health, and so on. This, of course, means strictly fulfilling the decisions taken in advance.

Seasonal work, in this case, is seasonality in life.

For example, by our 40th year, first and fourth cooker (family and career), the second and third when the children grew up and the name worked for us.

Of course, variants are many.

It is important to keep the theory in mind so that the right practical solutions can be found.

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See you soon @kalinka

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source - http://www.edna.bg
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