The bad memory is treated with good

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We are walking around with a friend of mine and wondering where to sit down. I offer the closest good I can think of.

"Oh no," he says. "I was parting with my ex-girlfriend and I was uncomfortable even by walking past him."

So you have to take a new boyfriend there to erase the bad memory - I suggest. The idea so terrifies him that only makes the sign with the hand, which means I'm scratching.

In fact, I gave him the idea that had a personal experience.

Years ago, it's been a while for me to avoid places I have had unpleasant experiences. But on the other hand, the places where it is worth going with intimate and non-intimate friends are not that much. And so it happened that a friendly company invited me to such a place, while the painful feeling was not healed. I was on the brink to give up. Even in something I stumbled and slightly injured.

By the time I finally got myself alone, I did not get there anymore. But my friends did not leave me alone. They came, took me by taxi, and thumbed me at the table. At the same table, where my heart was pierced a few nights ago.

I will never forget tonight. We laughed so much, and in the end I even had a new, charming and entertaining suitor that every pain of past experiences was healed. Even then I did not forget to thank the situation and promised to remember it to be useful to me in all cases where I associate external factors and places with negative experiences.

I told all of this to my friend to convince him that when you had a painful experience somewhere, you must come back and experience something nice. "Okay, let's go there," he agreed, but at your charge. If I sink, because of the former, you will be guilty. " I do not take the blame, I also enjoyed eating something very well there, and I decided to risk a man who was not ready to trust me.

It turned out that we hit a happy hour with a 50% reduction in beer and, in the first place, it made it easier. Then he met a friend with whom they talked about their common hobby, and the evening was pleasant, without being unique. Still, he did not sink either because of the former or the place, but lightly and casually emerged without encountering a new personal earthquake.

As I listened to men how they were excited about their hobby, I thought about myself - to get deeper into my concept that the good experience canceled the previous bad. I have thought of many cases where people give up just because they have failed once or repeatedly. Or they had something unpleasant in the process.

For example, you make a reservation or order online and something gets fucked up. They did not report you, they took the money, you ordered one, and you got something else and you say: I never order online anymore. Best in place, another is human contact. In fact, it is better to do the opposite. Wait for a bit of anger, and when you calm down, order something else. If you come across an angry employee in the administration, go another day with a smile again, maybe to the same one to clear the bad memory.

If a relationship has been unsuccessful or there has been drama and jealousy, misunderstanding, or other troublesome things, give yourself time to calm down a bit and start a relationship again by focusing on what you like. Even without giving her great expectations at first, but on the contrary - the lighter, like the happy hour beer, the better.

Do not be inclined to lead it to a more serious commitment, let it be light and noncommittal, with respect to the free time you have for yourself. We all know that "time for yourself" is a great luxury in relationships in which your life has become joint and you have too many household commitments to each other. And sometimes that is why the cause of true attraction, which is a joyous experience of a similar worldview and way of life, is somehow forgotten.

I realize that it is easier to erase our bad feelings to the places where we have experienced something unpleasant than to the people we have experienced. However, in both cases, the rule is that only our attitude towards people, places, and situations is important. But it is also true that the habit of the little one goes to the big one.

Gradually, when it becomes a habit, it will shift to people. The subconscious will learn to say, "I experienced something unpleasant with you, but I believe it was very valuable to me. Now for gratitude, we will experience something nice together. "

Perhaps this is the basis of the concept of "karmic ties". Surely it is easier to open our hearts when we are completely free of the bad experience, but ultimately it is not evolution. Do not have to fall into full amnesia every time, but take a conscious responsibility for the full experiences of the many nuances of love and joy.

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See you soon @kalinka

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