How do you stop yourself from being angry with someone?

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It is normal to feel or get angry when someone hurts or offends you. The most important thing is getting out of that feeling of anger/pain/hurt. There are just a few things that can be done to stop yourself from being angry at someone.

• Ascertain why you are angry: Most times, when we critically look at the issue, we can't really place why exactly we are angry. This is majorly because our anger might be based on previous occurrences that we have stored up. So, the first thing you need to do is to find out the cause of that your anger.
• After you've come to terms with why you are angry, then the next thing to do is assume the position of the other person. If it was someone who got you angry, assume that person's position and think for a moment if you couldn't have done the same or maybe even worse if you were in the person's position. 
• Forgive the person. I know it's not easy to forgive someone, but if you must let go of the pain or anger that you feel, then you need to forgive that person. 
• Forgive yourself. It is also important that you learn to forgive yourself. Stop hurting yourself because you feel angry. I do that a lot. But I have learned to stop hurting me and start loving me.
• Maintain Calm. That's one of the easiest ways to stop getting angry. Get into your spiritual, mindfulness mood and try to maintain calm. It works like magic, you will realize that the anger vanishes.