What life exercises did you learn through your first relationship?

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My first relationship was my longest ever relationship and it lasted for five years. It lasted that long because I wasn't willing to let go of the relationship. I felt, since we loved each other, then we should be together forever. I got to understand later that love wasn't all that mattered in a relationship.

And that is the first thing I learned from my first relationship. Love alone isn't enough. There is more to a relationship than just love. That you love each other isn't just enough reason to start up a relationship. There are factors that could hinder your being together.

Distance relationship works if you can deal. The first one and half years of our relationship was spent together and soon enough, he had to leave town to somewhere far. I was scared. I thought I was gonna lose him. But he reassured me of his love for me. He left and 3 years later, we were still together and in love.

Communication matters. If you want your relationship to last long, then communication must be a frequent thing. Ensure you communicate effectively with each other. Long distance relationships need even more communication. You must be able to discuss heartily with each other and say how you feel at every point in time.

Trust is a very important factor in a relationship. I never trusted my first boyfriend because he was far away. I guess same happened for me too. He also never me and would accuse me of cheating because he wasn't around. I also did same and would stalk him on social media, going through all his comments to see if I'd see any loophole.