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As the saying goes, "Family and everything flourish", if a woman wants to be happy, she must know how to balance in order to maintain family harmony. To maintain harmony in the family, it is fundamental to understand the tempers of two people. Understand the circumstances under which the other party is prone to get angry, can avoid his anger, but also vent his grievances; know when to give in and when to act like a baby, so that the husband’s anger and hostility can be turned into peace. This is the most fundamental The Way of Concord.

Men usually have a fierce temper and are tough and strong. They are not good at adapting. Especially when they are angry, they will not naturally extinguish the fire. Once they provoke them to anger, they will hardly end up easily. Women should understand this, don't doubt them casually, nagging and picky will only annoy them. It can be said that ordinary men can tolerate women's nagging unless they reach a certain limit. Women's tempers are usually more delicate and gentle. Although they love to take advantage of the situation to find fault, once a man has a temper, they are more tolerant.

Both men and women must understand each other's temperament and balance the family aura so as to create a warm and harmonious family atmosphere. The person who learns to use humor and wisdom, flexibility and harmony to manage the family atmosphere is the smartest woman. Such a woman knows when a man is going to get angry; when to be savage and willful; when to "bully" him without annoying him; when is best to leave him alone without disturbing him. For such a woman, her family is also harmonious. Although there are some small noises, she will control it to the extent that she can lubricate her feelings and vent pressure without breaking the bones.

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So, in order to do this, what are we going to find out about ourselves and our lover?

Understand the taboos of both parties

There are always things that you don't like the other person to mention, which are your taboo topics. For example, your first love, the relationship between you back then, etc. Maybe as the relationship develops, you tell the other person about it, but you don't want to remember it again. If the other person repeatedly mentions it, or even gets jealous about it, carefully questioning your relationship status, you will definitely get angry. Regarding the past goodness and pain, everyone in marriage is willing to bury it in their hearts for a lifetime, and only tell each other for frankness. The same is true for women. Don’t dwell on a man’s past. Even if he has more confidantes, he belongs to you today. That’s enough. When he was young and frivolous, everyone would do something embarrassing and make some mistakes, which he didn't want to recall or mention. Men are ashamed to talk about things that are embarrassing, and women are better not to mention it. Only by understanding the taboos of both parties can you ensure that you will not mistakenly step on the minefield and ensure a happy marriage.

Understand the limits of both parties.

Everyone's ability to bear is limited. Usually you feel that no matter how much bitter you spit on him, no matter how trivial things you nag, he won't get angry. But today, if you just complained lightly, he became angry, not only because he was in a bad mood today, but also because he was fed up with your complaints. There is a saying, "It is the last straw that crushes the camel." The camel can bear weight, but it is by no means unlimited. If you put it down one by one, there will always be a straw that will crush the camel.

Therefore, don't let your own words or unintentional actions become the last straw to crush the camel. You may feel extremely wronged, you may have a quarrel with him, or arguing, but what's the point of this? A smart woman will always stop her chattering little mouth at the last moment when a man is about to get angry, and pull the reins of the opponent in time before he loses control. Do they have any secrets? Of course, living together for a long time and understanding the limits of what the other party can bear.

Know how to observe the emotions of both parties

He is not happy today, why? When you are excited or wronged, someone gently asks "Are there any happy things today?" or "Are you in a bad mood?" You will feel particularly warm and caring. Being the other's interpretive flower, and cultivating emotional rapport with each other is a subject that every couple should practice.

Find out the tempers of both parties.

Is it fierce or soft, or is it raining and clearing after losing my temper, or always hiding my thoughts and thinking very hard. For a person with a violent temper, just let him vent himself. If you ignore him, he will be fine after he vents his depression. The more you care about him and quarrel with him, the more intense and angry his emotions will be. For a person with introverted character and thoughtfulness, he must be good at observing and enlightening, and even encourage him to say what is in his heart in a quarrel. Regularly clear up the depression in his heart, otherwise he will really get sick after a long time, or there will be a general outbreak, and things will not be able to clean up.

In short, only if you can understand, you can coordinate and balance. A family is a family of two or even more people. It is difficult to coordinate if you only pay attention to your own emotions and your likes and dislikes regardless of each other; if coordination is not good, the operation of the whole family will go wrong. Just like a machine, if the parts are not well coordinated, there will be friction, problems, and even paralysis. Understanding both parties and understanding their tempers is a good way to coordinate the operation of the marriage machine.