If the opposite attracts, what do they retract?

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Basically, it's very easy and facile to fall in love. But maintaing it is another thing altogether. I remember two love birds way back in school, Tim and Lily's they had the sweetest relationship in school back then.

They love grew to fast, that Timmy even goes to Lily's house to visit her on weekends, everything was going smoothly from the beginning but then they discovered that both of them were quite different from each other.

We all know that opposite attracts and that's what actually made them to be together. But all of a sudden it begins to tear apart, every little thing that each of them does irritates the other, little thing like booking a table for dinner, going to the cinema suddenly became a progeny.

Lily might decide that she just wants to have a peace of mind without worrying about the long queue. Timmy on the other hand just see's the queue it as a normal thing, moreover impulse could be fun.

Don't get it twisted, no doubts they love each other but are frustrated. Lily being a lady might understand why Timmy doesn't comprehend the advantage when it comes to planning ahead. And then Timmy on the other hand can't really fathom why Lily's just don't go with the flow.

What they simply need to know is that they are assessing each other's behavior based on their upbringing and standards.

Basically, our mentality, intellectualism and are framed by how we are raised. All fingers aren't equal and also all families are not the same. Apparently, we are however a product of our surroundings and environment where we came from. Our standards and mentality is definitely how we were raised, so permit to say that people with different backgrounds and upbringing would have various standards. The output of where we came from is so deep-rooted right in us that we don't actualize that we may magistrate others for not having the same standards with us, probably way to low for us.

What works for you might literally not work for your partner

However we might not be cognizant that you're doing it, but if peradventure you couldn't meet up to your partner standards, then you're absolutely free to go for someone that shares the same standard with you, or you might as well work harder to meet up with the one you truly want.

From the above explanation stated, since Timmy isn't so punctual, then there is no doubt that it provokes Lily. And on the other hand, Timmy get's upset that her lifestyle doesn't fit in with his.

In conclusion, never assume that what works perfectly for you might as well work for the next person or partner. Also, you anticipation and expectation for them to accustom to your own lifestyle simply puts a huge load on them. Not everyone can control that pressure, some might as well change or feasibly think that they aren't really good for you as you want them to be.

Generally, no one is exactly the same as the next person, even twins aren't really the same. What makes relationship interesting and different is the ability to embrace you and your partner, and then for this reason you will have a lasting and happy relationship.