How to survive a breakup with a loved one?

"He left me..." Each of us happened to experience the pain of parting, when the hurt, pain and despair tear the soul apart, and have no strength to live on, and all thoughts is only one question: "Honey, for what?". How to deal with less losses from this crisis?

Break-up is always a hard blow for both partners, but if the initiator of the breakup was your favorite, get ready for the war for yourself, this is how you should perceive this situation. Psychologists have calculated that the most difficult period after separation is about the first 6 weeks, but this time can be significantly reduced if you clearly understand the fact that everything is over once and for all. Yeah, he's gone. Repeated a hundred times, interspersed with tears, to the one hundred and first this terrible phrase suddenly cease to have power over you. This is very important and already very much. It's like the first little victory in your battle for yourself. You must become a strong woman who can survive the breakup, rise and move on in spite of everything!

How to make a break in a relationship not as painful as to preserve self-respect and not suffer later from guilt in the event that you are the initiator of the break?

• One on one with sorrow remain hard, and" recovery " will be very long. Close in itself is not necessary. Share your trouble with as many people as possible. In psychoanalysis, this is called the method of scattering grief. As a result, in a short time you will feel that the soul is not so hard. Contact your friends for help. The main thing-to cry. A friend, of course, will listen and try to advise something, but sometimes it is better to turn to a psychologist.

• If you are a closed-minded person, and you find it difficult to share your problems, start a diary, it's a great way to get rid of obsessive memories, insults, to remove the weight of the moment. And this is not only an ideal interlocutor, helping to survive the breakup, you will be able to better understand the problem, presenting it on paper. All your torments and offended feelings, at least once believed in the paper, become the past. The described emotions cease to put a heavy burden on the soul and gradually release. You seem to be freed and regain the ability to control yourself and your experiences.

• Sit in front of the mirror and tell yourself about your grief. Psychologists say that such therapy is quite effective in relieving stress. By the way, exercise in front of a mirror to finish the exercises in the art of mimicry. A pair of good faces in front of the mirror will improve your mood, your task — to prove yourself the frivolity of the problem.

• Immerse yourself in the work. Here's the magic tool that helps you from any troubles on work. It will help you to quickly get over a breakup. Work helps, when quite hard and want look away from their problems. And of course, work as a psychotherapeutic agent has one undeniable advantage over all others: it is paid for.

• For some reason, we forget about the inevitable connection of our soul with the body and that sometimes it is necessary to drive the body to the soul became easier. So, do some work to exhaustion. It does not matter what it will be: running, aerobics, rearrangement in the room, furious washing or washing floors with a toothbrush. Sometimes it is necessary to shout or burst, and can break something, it is necessary to give vent to emotions, they need to be released outside that they did not destroy you from within.

• Doctors believe that sport helps to cope with stress very well. Overcome yourself and go to the gym. Nature also treats-take a walk in the Park or go to the forest. Watch your favorite movie, reread your favorite book. Dress smart, even if you intend to spend the evening at home. You can, of course, visit friends, various parties. Make life full of events.

• In the fight against depression well helps the right nutrition. It's only in movies heroines help boxes of chocolates, in fact, if you want to say goodbye to depression as quickly as possible, give up all kinds of spices and sweets. Juices, mineral water, vegetables, a variety of fruits — all this is necessary for you, but the neurosis does not last long without red wine and cakes.

• Do meditation, you can not help endless streams of tears, and a state of relaxed peace and tranquility, when the recovery process takes place 2-3 times faster than during sleep.

• Remove all things that remind you of him. Do not give yourself masochistic pleasure, turning over his letters and photos, the best thing is to collect everything and, without looking, throw.

Set a goal-to return to life. Remember that you just took before you knew him, you dreamed of what you wanted — because now you have a real chance to prove himself. And no need to build a desperate plot, is, of course, also a kind of defensive reaction, but revenge never brings relief, but a Mature, sensible woman with dignity will take the gap. And at all, enough weeping. Remember what he forbade you to do. Now you can safely wear your favorite red dress, which he considered vulgar. Dating a school friend, which he considered to be silly, and hang out in the nightclub with friends, to whom he was jealous.
Life goes on!

Godspeed.

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