In constraint there are no real "pluses". Although many people confuse shyness and modesty, all these qualities of nature a huge difference. Modesty can adorn a person, and shyness, excessive constraint-will prevent him from achieving important goals in life, will cause internal discord, lack of harmony with the world, with people.

How to cope with uncertainty, discomfort and fears?

The answers to all these questions are in the person, in his inner world, in his relations with others.
The reasons for excessive shyness in an adult may be as follows:

peculiarities of psychological profile (introvert, extrovert);
psychological trauma in childhood associated with peers;
negative attitudes of parental education;
wrong model of behavior in society, etc.

The reasons can be as much as the shy people themselves. And for each method of correcting the situation, the way of gaining confidence should be its own.

Introverts and extroverts: who has a stronger natural tendency to be shy?

See also: 5 myths about introverts

Depending on how a person perceives the world and how he sees his place in it, his personality has certain qualities of character. Natural innate feature affects the process of human interaction with the external environment, but it does not say, for example, about fatal shyness. Working on ourselves helps us to change, reveals our best sides and transforms negative ones.

For example, introverts are more difficult to contact the world, and their tendency to be shy is higher. Extroverts trust others more, but along with openness often receive unflattering assessments from the world, criticism, reproaches and discontent with their actions. This causes low self-esteem, awkwardness, emotional excitability in such people. And there are questions "how to stop being shy of people, how to respond to their mistakes?" Introverts natural shyness, extroverts – acquired. But there is a problem and we have to work on it. If, of course, shyness prevents.

How to work on your shyness?

Many of our complexes, fears, prejudices are formed by ourselves. And you can deal with them with the help of psychologists, coaches, spiritual mentors. Including with shyness. Every problem has a reason. To find her, to designate, to re-interpret or just to live is sufficient for attenuation of a psychological clip.

If shyness was the result of childhood trauma, to remedy the situation, it is important to dive deep into the problem, forgive the offenders to let go of the old. How much time it will take to study the injuries and how to cope with the subconscious with this forgiveness depends on the nature of the person, the desire to sincerely forgive others and change yourself. You can use the services of psychologists, installers, psychotherapists. It is possible to carry out reanimation of children's diseases.

If shyness is the result of excessive self-control, rigid framework and rules, something imposed, something to cope with the complex will help the awareness of the uniqueness of themselves and their world. How can you stop being embarrassed about what's limiting our lives?

There are 2 ways.

The first is to understand that no one can ever live this life for you.
The second is to adhere only to the state and moral laws, the commandments of God. To live by your sense of duty, responsibility, decency, and not by others.

The habit of being shy is the habit of looking around. On others. To imitate others, to be envious, to mark one's imperfection. It is impossible to forbid people to evaluate themselves, but do not live only these estimates. Most often they are purely subjective, unfair and narrow. And your life is not like this: it is multi-color, different, rich in events and meetings! It is not necessary to create boundaries for life. If there is a desire to be shy, remember that your life is only yours and depends on you, not on those who give an assessment, control, criticize, doubt.

Parents play a big role in shaping people's shyness. Alas, in relation to their children, they are often unfair. Do not add confidence to their children, too strict with them, suppress their authority, forced to do what is alien to the child. Hence the isolation and shyness – the fear of not meeting parental expectations.

How to stop being shy in this case? How to get rid of parental care, becoming an adult?

Forgive your parents and accept them for who they are. Live your life, do what you love, build relationships with your children on trust and openness. And parents to thank for the experience and keep them love and respect. Whatever their reproaches in childhood, an adult is able to correct the mistakes of parental education. Himself.

The world is interesting, and the more people study it, notice it, feel it, the less it is concentrated on itself, on its shortcomings. And discomfort including. Direct and active communication with people is the key to looseness and self – confidence. "Fire with fire." You could say that. It is important to find like-minded people, people who are interested in you, who can learn something from you. Such interlocutors will not be important to your shyness. They will see in you all the best, interesting, valuable.

Shyness is very impedes success in business, creativity, any other self-realization. In this case, it is important to fully absorb the process, and not the opinion of other people about your projects, paintings, books, etc. it is Important to act, and not to look for estimates and praise!
Any concentration on the present moment helps a person to open up, as to stop being shy-it means to become yourself: sincere, real, alive.

There are many more recommendations that directly or indirectly allow a person to cope with shyness:

• live in the here and now;
• raise your self-esteem;
• strengthen faith in yourself;
• to enjoy the small successes;
• set goals correctly and achieve them;
• always have an opinion;
• engage in spiritual practices;
• strengthen the nervous system, etc.

And if you like to be shy, but you read this article because others are constantly telling you about this deficiency, then think, is it important you fight with yourself? It is one thing – if you find it hard to be shy, and quite another-if for you it is a degree of comfort!