It so happens that people often assert themselves at the expense of others: the most primitive is much easier to humiliate somebody than to raise himself. That is why we are faced with rudeness at home, in the store, on the forum, on the bus, at work...Everywhere. And the main thing here-to protect the nerves and not to spend energy for the offender, after all he needs only your negative reaction and nothing more. And you just need not to feed the aggressor.

Who insulted you?

Before you can understand how to respond to insults, you need to understand what categories people resort to this method of self-affirmation.

• First, people are weak. They are afraid that there are other weapons, I don't know;
• Energy vampire. With them everything is clear, because without others ' negative emotions, they do not live;
• Boors. Also no comments;
• Aggressors. This category of people does not represent life without squabbles and provocations, so they amuse themselves with thoughts that their behavior will provoke you;
• Drug addicts and alcoholics. These people just lost any control over themselves;
• Idiots and just primitive people. Their tiny brains can't do it any other way.

There are General principles on how to respond to insults.

• Do not fall to the level of insulting. You look ridiculous, this time, give in to manipulation – it's two. Very many people just to give in to provocation "you bad", and after that it already in networks of the manipulator. Do you need it?

• Following rule. Answer calmly and with dignity. Polite and cultured people are simply afraid of the aggressors and boors. But trolls better not to respond at all.

• To the quiet person all this is more difficult: it is simply more difficult to answer provocations of boors. Your task is to stay on your field. Your best bet is to go without comment. Know-it is also insulting.

• Don't make excuses. So you put yourself in a position of humiliated and insulted. And still your justifications are interesting to nobody: neither aggressors, nor weak, nor strong. Anyway, what is the sense to grovel before those who have a task – to play on your emotions. Just try to understand why you were so offended.

• Sometimes an insult or offense suddenly work: a difficult day, trouble in your personal life...If you know the offender, you can just ask, "what, do you Have a bad day?". In any case, do not put yourself below it, because this is often a provocation and an attempt to take over you.

• And sometimes you don't have to answer at all. Just ask the abuser. Pretend you didn't hear it or didn't notice it at all. Apathy is one of the best reactions.

• If there is a need to respond, do not mind directly. It is better to stifle the aggressor with humor and wit. Listen to all attacks from the beginning to the end, but for now think of a witty answer. Sometimes humor is the best option. But if the insult really hurts your dignity and honor, it is better not to be joked, it will only show the offender that the AU can wipe his feet.

Several options

• Ignore;
• We drive the offender to a standstill;
• Weeping;
• Laugh off;
• We act physically.

But you need to understand that in different situations different reactions are appropriate.

• How to respond to an insult depends on the insulting. If this is a pot-bellied uncle with beer in line or transport, then most likely he just pours out his negative and discontent with life. Here it is best to keep silent and not at all nervous for a fool, which, thank God, will never see. Energy vampires is also best to use the method of ignoring.
• If insulting is your good friend, which is the style of communication, you can use the second method and to ask clarifying questions: why do you think so, what else you not satisfied with me, argue...Likely tusuetsja and understand what is wrong. And maybe your life will disappear: good riddance...to Ignore the need and colleagues and also head. Boss better represent this child, patting them on the head and feed porridge…
• Weeping. First, is appropriate when dealing with boorish workers Zhekov, saleswomen, not less boorish pasportistka and other bureaucratic ladies of unnecessary offices. Second, when dealing with girls boor of a male, especially if he insulted you unjustly.
• Humour is universal at any breed of boors. Such after all often under a mask of bullies hide weakness and fear to seem ridiculous. And thanks to the jokes you such pseudorutile to ridicule: they droop and, as a rule, the more you do not touch.
• But physical impact is an extreme case. For example, if a drunken man in a crowded place insults everyone around, then you can give him a slap and push him out of the bus or room.

Other way

• Most often insult those who live with the position of the victim. Pay attention to how you hold on and talk, maybe something victimized in you slips;

• A good option to translate the negative qualities that you attributed to the positive or to catch a person that he is not better. For example, if someone says that you look bad after a corporate party, notice that the offender was at home in the evening, and looks even more "dented". And, you can recall what people are saying about what's bothering them, therefore, see only their flaws. So, even if their problems are not being loaded;

• Even the banal "fool" can be answered in different ways:

• So, hooligan is better not to answer, or (in extreme cases) to explain everything with his fists. But it is suitable only for the most frail individuals of Gopnik breed;

• With equal can use counterattack. Ask counter question, after-a strong phrase, and then point without answer;

• In the company of friends it is better to defuse a situation. Comrade called you a fool and wants to spoil the evening? We answer calmly: "I would very much like to speak with you on an equal footing as a literate and cultured person, and I can not fall to insults in response, and I am sure that you too. Consonant?". It's just a skeleton, but it is important here first, your position elevate, secondly, the "pull" to her abuser and finish all question that can be answered either "no" or "Yes".