How to increase self-esteem?
How often do not achieve what you would like, you will find that just lacked a bit of confidence lost, you were attacked by a strange torpor. It's all the syndromes of low self-esteem. In its maximum-a complex of"little man". Each of us said or at least thought something like this: "I'm a small person, nothing depends on me." Thinking, and therefore acting with this attitude, a person simply becomes a toy of external circumstances. So how do you raise your self-esteem? Here are a few simple tips, tested on their own skin:
Abandon excessive demonstration of its relevance. If you don't match the image that you're trying to show the world inwardly, you'll just look like a cartoon, and people will subconsciously try to put you in place.
Believe in themselves. Just like that, no strings attached. Just believe that you can do anything. After all, any complex problem can be divided into a sequence of simple actions and just perform these actions. It is important to know where to go, and go, no matter what!
Plan your Affairs. Do not start the day without a day plan, a week without a week plan, etc. The plan for the next day to write better in the evening and adjust in the morning.
If you decide to do something, start as soon as possible, not thinking about the difficulties. The longer you plan to start, the harder it seems.
Any, the most uninteresting thing don't do mechanical. First, try to make it interesting. The case will be executed faster and better. (Thanks to Dale Carnegie, this Board has helped me more than once!)
Smile! Smile sincerely! Relaxing and soothing effect (sincere, not stretched, on duty) smile is so beneficial that it is surprising how rare people use this balm of the soul.
Ask, if something it is unclear. It is better to be a fool once, than to remain them all life. In addition, by asking questions, you let the interlocutor know that you are listening to him.
Make the habit of doing something new on a regular basis that you've never done before.
This way you are not only expanding horizons, but also a zone of mental comfort.
Stop complaining all the time. Without comments.
Stop making excuses in front of others. The more excuses you come up with, the more insecure you feel. Just when needed, confident voice, explain his actions.
Never accuse yourself of anything. Without comments.
Praise yourself for any finished work, even the smallest.
Get yourself A "daily success magazine". Write down everything you consider to be your success. When you feel insecure, just read this magazine. It always helps!
Fear is the most important destroyer of confidence. And how not to fear? Find insurance, a backup option, keep in mind the workaround, reduce the importance of the task in advance to accept failure and act!
Let yourself do something imperfect and sometimes bad, worse than others. Allow yourself the luxury of not comparing yourself to others. Usually these comparisons will not be in your favor, so is it worth it to upset yourself?
And the main thing-to act! To act decisively, not looking back. When the bridges are burned, there's nowhere to retreat. Will have to go forward! Even if it is very scary…