If you're thinking about becoming a more open person, you're experiencing a lack of communication when you have a need for it. But think about the fact that open, extroverted people also often feel uncomfortable in the team and simply get tired of constant communication, because it is not easy to give energy to everyone at once, spraying on thousands of people. But it is easier for sociable people to find new friends, and in work they usually succeed: after all, an open person is usually a talented psychologist by nature and feels people better.

And yet, how to become more sociable and confident in the event that you are too modest and shy? First, do not forget that modesty and shyness – a kind of pride of a person who is fixated on himself. Overcoming shyness, you will be able to get rid of this obsession.

Overcome their complexes

Let's start with stopping self-criticism. Most of those who consider themselves uncommunicative and self-contained suffer criticism. Just understand that all people, whoever they may seem, have both disadvantages and advantages. Confident and open people are distinguished by a positive attitude to others and to themselves. Moreover, if we call some kind of character trait is bad, it is bad this will not – will remain as is. It may be better to consider it good? Just don't focus on your shortcomings and those of others.

• That is why it is necessary to make a list of all their positive qualities and remind yourself of them often. After thinking about your bad line, get rid of the thought by mentioning a couple of positive qualities.
• The same applies to looks. It is no secret that people do not notice the shortcomings of your appearance that you see. We seem more beautiful to people than ourselves.
• Remember, that man on its nature kind, and even with, that lack evil and envious personalities, all people can love and be intensely kind. With that mindset it's easier to chat and get to know.

Do not analyze your communication

First, it makes it difficult to enjoy it, and secondly. Ridiculous and absurd can become at some point, even the most open-minded person. But a simple attitude to such incidents makes it charismatic. Please note children who do not think about the look of the OS side and just caught the buzz from a game and contact with others.

• Instead of obsessing over your mistakes, just start a new conversation from scratch;
• Do not ponder past situations and conversations, no matter how unsuccessful they may be. Concentrate on good and fun.

You're not that important.

Even if someone laughed after your ridiculous phrase, this will immediately be forgotten, so do not think that in any team, people only hunt down where you screw up and write it in a separate notebook. That is why it is not necessary to experience some complexes due to the fact that you are some not so: relaxed and just do what you like.

• Believe me, people are so passionate about themselves and communication that just do not notice most of your punctures. And even if something is noticeable, probably unlikely someone is going to be especially interesting.
• All people feel about the same, and even the most sociable and confident people are sometimes afraid to disgrace. They differ from you in that they are painted and have fun.
• You should not need the approval of people, and the need for it prevents you from being yourself.

How to improve your communication skills

• Use all opportunities for acquaintance. Surely you are invited to all sorts of events and parties and meetings over the Internet. Be sure to go to those that interest you: among like-minded people you will definitely be comfortable, and like nowhere else.
• Initiate communication yourself. Do not expect that someone will write or call, write, call and agree about a meeting themselves. If desired, and the opportunity to arrange their own party. Just show people that you value their society and friendship.
• Follow the gestures and learn their language. The position of your body will say more than words. Therefore, if at a party or in a team you stand aside and arms crossed, it is unlikely that you will arrange people to communicate. In order to make it easier, look in the eyes and smile.
• Always participate in communication. Show people that you are interested in their life, listen carefully and look at the interlocutor, ask questions, nod your head, but do not think about what you have to say now.
• Be positive. Such people delight others, and over time, positive can become the basis of worldview.
• Practice all the time. This is generally the basis of productive communication. Therefore, we go with friends to crowded places, invite them to events that you are interested in or initiate joint activities running, football, tennis. And do not be afraid to start casual conversations with everyone you see every day: sellers, bartenders, cashiers, administrators...and finally, never give up any invitations. Even if you are out of shape and want to sleep, stretch yourself by the ears.
• Find like-minded people and practice. Well, if you will find friends with similar on your interests. This is a great opportunity to practice. That is why when there is a lack of communication it is useful to enroll in some organizations: volunteer or simply by interests.
• Go to team sports or dance. It all depends on your interests, but where there are people as passionate as you are, it will be easier to communicate. A dance, especially ballroom, Latin or hustle-a great school of communication, where you can meet new friends, learn to understand the interlocutor and learn sign language.
• The most modest can begin to improve communication skills with the Internet. But this does not mean that you need to change the live chat on Facebook.

Remember that friendship with the world is impossible, but it will not be less interesting!