THE BLAME GAME

in #life7 years ago


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"My boss won't get me promoted because he is a chauvinist", "I had to beat my wife because she nags a lot and doesn't seem to understand me", "My lecturer gave me bad a bad grade because she hates me". These, as well as several others are the reasons people give when things don't go the way they want or when they are at fault and are not willing to admit it.
Some people have the tendency to always find someone to blame when something does wrong in their life. For them, admitting that they are at fault is tantamount to diminishing their value as a human being but they have no problem with finding fault with other people and reducing these other people's value. People blame others for several reasons and these are discussed in the subsequent paragraphs.

Some individuals are just incapable of taking responsibility for their mistakes. They have this perfect picture of themselves, which they feel they always have to maintain. Admitting failure or a mistake is a taboo for them. When they fail at something or make a mistake, they always find someone or even an event to heap the blame on.

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Also, some parents are really lacking, when it comes to teaching their children to take responsibility. For this reason, these children grow up to become adults who are incapable of taking responsibility for their actions and they'll always heap the blames for their faults on other people.

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Another reason why some people might blame others is the need to control such individuals. They might achieve this by calling people names and trying to make such people bad, so that out of frustration or the desire to please, these people would break and do the will of the individuals who are blaming them. Fear makes some people blame others. When things go out of hand and people lose control of a situation, they might try to have a feeling of control by blaming other people.

I don't have a problem with an individual being blamed for his actions but you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions and stop being a coward, who blames innocent people just for the need to be in control. I have the believe that if as an adult, you still play the blame game, your wisdom level is very low. Dr Steve Maraboli said and I quote "I have found that as your wisdom and maturity develop,the number of other people you blame for your own circumstances shrinks." There is nothing evil about making bad decisions as you'll learn from your mistakes. However, blaming other people for your own mistakes is very immature and a trait which should be curbed in children, not to talk of them being found in adults.

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