NORMALIZE SAYING AND ACCEPTING NO!

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For a few years now, I have reduced my intake of sugar. I noticed that I usually have this ill reaction each time I took sugar alongside beverages. After medical checks, I decided that it was better taking my beverages devoid of sugar and I have been alright doing so.

While it is obvious that a lot of people cannot do without sugar, I have come to accept the fact that truly, not everyone likes sugar.

I DO NOT LIKE SUGAR!

This holds a great lesson...

Each time you try to do things against your wish or convenience, so that people would love you, you are practically making yourself a sugar figure. Sadly enough, not everyone likes sugar so, not everyone would like you.

I have been in situations where a request is made and I feel overwhelmed to accept such a request. I do not blink an eyelid in politely declining such a request. It has helped me focus on a lot of things and aided smooth delivery in my work processes.

While it might look saddening for a lot of people, I have always appreciated it each time my NO is taken with a cheerful heart. It means that the person making a request values my time and access.

It became easy for me to say NO when I started receiving a NO without holding any further grudges. People have their lives to live and they are entitled to making decisions on what matters to them.

If you are intentional about building yourself into a personality to be reckoned with, you must see the need to carefully spot what you can accept and decline that which you cannot take on. It is not you being inconsiderate to people's request. It is you ensuring that you do not overwork yourself.

I employed this early enough in my work process and it has helped me to work with only those who are serious about birthing good books and growing their brand. I have ZERO tolerance for lazy people. I cannot stand those who cannot take action on their goals.

In the course of doing my job, I have said NO to projects that have the potency of getting me hooked to my desk all in the name of editing. I have said NO to projects from clients who tend to override my sanity through their display of despicable actions all in the name of paying for my services.

Even though I don't get to share most of the things I use to rate a job and its itinerary before accepting bookings, I ensure that I don't get entangled to a point where I cannot say NO.

This lesson should reflect in other areas of your life.

Are you in a situation that keeps you in an unstable state? Are you in an environment that threatens your peace of mind? Do you accept every job because of the money you hope to get? Are you tight-fixed to schedules but cannot decline another because of some strings of attachment? Do you allow people into your circle and network just because you do not want to look like a snub?

Hear me!
No matter how much sweet you tend to act, you can never be sugar. And even if you become sugar someday, not everyone would like you; not everyone likes sugar.

This is the point where you need to brace up!
NORMALIZE SAYING NO! You won't die if you say NO to that job that threatens your peace of mind. There are others who need to meet you in a stable condition to pay you your exact charge without belittling you.

You won't die if you move away from that relationship or network that brings your self-esteem low. You need all the boost and confidence to thrive in a society like ours.

It is up to you to take charge of your SANITY, TIME, and SPACE. Learn to choose what suits you without feeling bad. Learn to say NO to options that do not align with your big vision.

While you learn to say NO, learn to also accept NO. You cannot please everyone and they can't also please you.

YOUR ABILITY TO KNOW THAT YOU CANNOT PLEASE PEOPLE AND PEOPLE CANNOT PLEASE YOU ALWAYS WILL SAVE YOU FROM UNNECESSARY HEARTACHES.

Remember, you are not sugar. Even if you are, not everyone likes sugar.

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