Relationship management for kids
It is very common for children to get into arguments with their friends. They can be good friends that turn into enemies over small matters.
Most children at early years are usually self-centered and selfish. They only think for themselves rather than for others unless parents try to nurture their children in being considerate so that they have this awareness.
Guiding children in managing their relationships can be a challenge. Some ways may work better for certain children, but those ways may not work for others.
This short article will just be some thoughts about possible ways.
Don’t interfere but advise
I had met parents who got involved physically in their children’s issues and confronted teachers about it.
They interfered with the conflicts that their children have with their classmates and they often were only given one side of the story by their children.
As a teacher, I feel that parents should not physically get involved but they should advise their children what they can do or encourage them to speak to their teachers.
Some parents even threatened to confront the children that they felt had bullied their kids but later they may find out that the story given by their own children was not complete.
Children often may only give their side of the story without revealing what is negative for themselves so I probably would not believe everything.
Seek peace
For children, they often want to be the winner even in argument or fight. We may not find many who seek to have peace with their friends.
As parents, we can teach our children how to seek peace instead of getting into more serious broken relationships.
Just like husband and wife, it is never a right time to discuss the issue when both are angry as they may get into intensive argument very easily.
I would respect students who know how to seek peace and they are good role models for the rest.
Be a giver rather than a taker
Parents who can teach their children to be generous givers rather than takers often find their children having good social relationships even in adulthood.
Everyone likes a giver more than a taker.
When we choose to give, we may not gain back often but there would be appreciative ones and we build a good reputation for ourselves.
Great businessmen are often great givers resulting in good business relationships.
This would be a great future advantage to their working relationships and future career.
Support with listening ear
Very often, our children may share their school relationship problems with us but we may not need to suggest anything.
After we listen to them attentively, we may be surprised that they come up with a good resolution on their own.
Pouring out their thoughts and feelings often can help them to sort out on their own.
This is like how we may talk aloud about something and later remember what we are trying to find out.
Our suggestions or interference may often become nuisance to them.
In conclusion
There is no educator or parent that can tell us a definite way for good relationship management for kids but they can offer ideas that may work for most children.
It is always good to learn how others have helped their children in this area rather than what we think is good.
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